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CHANGE OF MINDSET

In Self Help on August 30, 2012 at 11:04 pm

My mindset a couple hours ago was purely about getting by. Not actually exceeding my potential. I had a mindset of a person that would just like to get by in life. I have hopes and aspirations, but never really put anything towards it. Yes, I have a few talents that I am praised for and proud of,  such as my writing, but even with that, I haven’t exactly pushed myself hard enough to be the best.

Not getting the desired outcome I expect, causes me to trip over mentally. I have aspirations to travel, explore the world, have a nice house, and have an amazing group of friends, but the honest truth is that I have never really pushed hard for it. I do the minimum to get by, but never the over and above. The only time I push myself, is when I am doing a sport. The reason I push myself then, is because my mindset from a young age, was embedded with the fact that I have to always do better than last time in any physical sport. I thank my mum for instilling that in me, from the age of 5.

The mindset of the typical individual is ‘let’s do what we need to do to survive and that’s okay, as long as we are secure.’ If an individual does enough to survive, he or she doesn’t have to push harder to out perform his or her last achievement. For me, I need to realise, in order for me to achieve even 10% of my ambitions, I need to push hard and reach deep. Nothing comes easy, nothing is simple. To be the best you got to work hard, every single day till you perfect your craft and get the result you desired.

My mindset is no longer, get it done so I can have a break but let’s have a break when the job has been done properly. A perfect time doesn’t exist, because when you look for perfect times, you miss opportunity.

WHO ARE YOU TALKING TO NOW?

In Relationships on August 30, 2012 at 1:01 pm

So I am a single, 17 year old and living life positively. I guess that is what matters right??

So when I broke up with my ex-girlfriend, I was like, I am going to learn from my mistakes, not judge anyone, and not try to change any individual to fit my character. I will be myself, learn from others and speak less, and listen more. That has always been my motto in life, but I never took it seriously till I broke up with my ex-girlfriend.

A couple months go by, and I feel like a changed individual. I am happy. I get along with people a lot more. I am more accepting and I am seeing the positivity in everyone. But one thing I constantly think about is ‘why would your ex-girlfriend be so interested in who you are talking too?’ I thought that doesn’t matter if you break up and move on, unless your ex secretly still likes you.

Since positivity should be self driven by self development, of course you don’t need to snoop in and out of peoples lives, like you are a CIA agent, reporting to cupid.  Move on, learn from what you have experienced but don’t try to relive what you have already lived. It won’t ever have the same value. It doesn’t matter what you do.

I am happy anyway. I love laughter, positivity, smiles and just the good feeling inside that says life will just okay.

TAKES SOMETHING SMALL TO MAKE ME SMILE

In Self Help on August 25, 2012 at 12:27 am

I just wanted to write a small post about how bad situations can instantly become good situations with the little nice comment, conversation or message someone can send to you, after a pretty negative day. We all have bad days. The days we want to swear recklessly. The days we want to give up and quit.

One thing we don’t realise is that if we are really postive, anything can brighten up our day. If we are positively driven by making a difference to our lives, then we can easily change our performance. Like I said in my last post, I had a bad day. What happened next was this beautiful stranger friend from Spain was like  ‘hi,’ on Facebook, and of course I was in no mood to stay negative or become majorly happy. Strangely the positive vibe she had, made a difference to our conversation. The fact we don’t dwell on the past, but move forward to happy outcomes.

So all I wanted to say in this post is never dwell on the negatives in life, and just be happy living and always live to be great within yoursellf. And ALWAYS, ALWAYS try to end your day with a smile. Makes a huge difference.

RELATIONSHIP TO WORK: PROFESSIONALISM VS FUN

In Relationships, Self Help on August 24, 2012 at 9:58 pm

This summer, I have been working at BANG Radio. When it comes to work, I enjoy it. I prefer working than going to school. My anticipation to get to my desk and get things done is seriously infectious in my sickening work ethic. Some people look forward to the weekend. I look forward to Monday. I love to chill out, watch films and be lazy, but I think holiday leave is the best time to do nothing. One of the massive challenges I face at work, especially working in a dynamic, fast pace radio station, full of young people and older people, is understanding the difference between professionalism and fun.

I consider myself really mature, but when I am serious, I am very serious. When I am having fun, I don’t take anything seriously. Finding the middle point in a working environment, I find immensly difficult. I watch ‘The Newsroom’ (favourite show) on Sky Atlantic and it may not be the best interpretation of a workplace, but when things are serious, you see it clearly depicted in Aaron Sorkin’s depiction of a news desk and broadcasting news network. I could see myself working professionally, while knowing when I leave the office, everything changes and the fun begins. But when you work with young and very dynamic people, the principles for effective work is even more complex and strange.

I realise my relationship with people at work is either extremely serious, or a journey of complete procrastination and immense failure in producing results. I get frustrated at times, when my point isn’t heard. I recently had an argument in a work meeting recently, and of course things stirred up, and I got annoyed, frustrated, pissed, and obviously reacted unprofessionally (I still love working don’t worry). I felt dissapointed in how I dealt with my situation, and of course I was angry, but I realised anger is not an effective approach to progression. I realised that I genuinely feel bad judging people, that is why I never judge. I have a shortfall where I like to have control in order to reduce my fear of failure or dissapointment. So, as a 17 year old teenager that is constantly discovering himself, sometimes not making any sense, I am constantly battling against my own identity, how important I am, and how I can put myself forward as a respectable person, rather than a joke.

So why I am writing this post?

Professionalism and fun at work is just one of those nitty gritty subjects that gets people thinking, and sometimes not thinking. Thinking before you speak, speaking without thinking, thinking so much and not acting without reason is just a constant mystery and conflict. How you deal with it, is by learning from failure and by uplifting yourself and finally uplifting those that want to join you in the GREAT RISE.

PROLONG A FRIENDSHIP BEFORE ANY RELATIONSHIP

In Relationships, Self Help on August 11, 2012 at 11:57 pm

Prolong a friendship for as long as possible. Plant the seeds before the tree is ready to grow and shoot.

Why do I say prolong a friendship? I say prolong a friendship for as long as possible because it allows the foundations to be planted deep in the soil. The soil is only rich if the foundations of a relationship is catered for and examined for a long time. What does that mean in plain English? What I am saying is before you jump into a relationship, hoping for the best without preparing for the worse, you need to make sure you understand the person you are going out with. I am not saying understand them perfectly, but fully make sure you and your future partner have similar interests. I have said before that values and beliefs are very important, but if the girl doesn’t like the same food as you or the same kind of movies, you will have problems. You and your partner need to enjoy each others company to the very last second. You need to like the same things as your partner so there is no quarrels or disagreements. Of course sometimes you might need to compramise but if your partner only likes Jazz, and you hate it, there will be problems, regardless of how strong the values you have with one another.

You may have have the same values as your partner, but if the approach isn’t the same or similar then there will be a few problems. You both may believe in success, but what success means for one individual, may not be the same for another. This is very deep stuff because connectivity and similarity in how you and your partner live your lives needs to combine together like half a heart with the other half of a heart. The heart doesn’t work effectively if one heart is purple, and the other is red. It doesn’t matter if they are the same size and diameter.

I have had amazing and less amazing friendships. What I have realised is that friendships last longer than relationships in a very generalised sense. The reason relationships work so well is because two parties realised that before they took the leap of faith, they made sure they wore their helmet and had the right size suit to execute a fantastic dive and smooth landing. If you don’t build a friendship based on foundations and similar interests, you will have a crash landing and it won’t be nice. Take as long as possible to prepare yourself for the jump or leap. It is seriously worth it. Yes, women will get bored. And yes, men will get bored if the person is taking so long, but if you wait long enough, someone who is right for you will wait with you and for you. They will stand by you when you fall, and fly with you when you rise.

Sometimes, you and another person may jump into a relationship not knowing much about the other person, only hoping for the best. What I can say from experience is don’t let all the glamour of being in a relationship get into your head. It is hard work, it if fun, but if you don’t prepare yourself or are ready, you will flop. Don’t only look at the positives, but examine the negatives and see whether you can cope with the person.

Ask yourself this harshly: DO THE POSITIVES OF THIS RELATIONSHIP OUTWEIGH THE NEGATIVES GREATLY?

You should never lower your standards to fit another person. You should never say another woman or man is a standard. Only standard yourself. You should never continue a relationship for the sake of it. You should never try to change a person, only accept. If you cannot accept the person, don’t be in that relationship.

It is majorly important that you ask simple questions towards your partner or friend. Questions like ‘Tell me about your morning.’ Simple questions are always the best questions because the way a man or woman answers it, can either attract you to them or make you less interested in them. An individual has the ability to approach their story of their morning, but the way this particular woman or man described it, attracted you to them. May seem trash talk, but believe me, it makes a hell of a difference.

Simplicity is key in any relationship. Being deep is important but if you are simple, there is no need to be deep because everything complex, was once simple.

I never used the word love in this post because love comes when your friendship is exactly what you want it to be. You will know when it hits you. I do not need to explain.

OUR DEEPEST FEAR – MARIANNE WILLIAMSON

In Self Help on August 5, 2012 at 3:44 pm

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”