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WHY I LOVE BLACK WOMEN

In Poetry on November 16, 2012 at 3:47 pm

GAAWWWWDDD DAAYYYYUUUUUM

I love how black women have this subtle style that I don’t seem to understand. It is beautifully secret within.

I love how black women don’t have to try to be cool, they just naturally are.

I love how black women have natural African hair, which looks naturally curly, naturally afro shaped, naturally black and soft.

I love how black women can cook really well and make food have so much flavour.

I love how black women are strong, and grounded in their beliefs, principles and morals.

I love have black women have the natural curves of a queen.

I love how black women act so queen like. Like they are the most important women in the world.

I love how black women can project their voice in speech, song, and laughter.

I love how black women can stick by their children through the best times of life and through the hardships.

I love the black woman’s commitment.

I SIMPLY LOVE THE BLACK WOMAN!

I CAN’T WAIT FOR MY BLACK WOMAN!

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PEOPLE’S STUPIDITY WILL FAIL YOU

In Relationships, Self Help, Travel on November 11, 2012 at 4:17 pm

Every time you take someones criticism personally, you will fail.

Every time you accomplish someone else’s dream, you will fail.

Every time you indulge in someone else’s stupidity, you shall fail.

Every time you think of changing your dream, you will automatically lose your chance to be happy and therefore you will fail.

Every time you over think about your chances of your dream becoming true, you actually don’t really want it and as a consequence, you will fail.

Every time you ever doubt yourself, you will fuck up and fail.

I hate when people tell me they can’t accomplish something because of the chances. I hate that excuse above everything. To be honest, I don’t care about anyone’s criticism. A persons criticism is an insecurity within themselves.  Just live how you wish to be by working hard from now.

I have three dreams in life so far, only being 17 right now.

  • Travel Writer: Someone who travels the world and writes books, magazines, and online articles on the topic of culture, relationships and how the motive of sharing and receiving love makes us interconnected in the most beautiful way.
  • Take care of my family
  • Have a beautiful wife, who has and lives the same dream as me through our love and commitment.

If I accomplish those, I am seriously a happy person.

Why can’t you be happy doing what you want in your life?

NEVER EVER STOP DREAMING. NEVER ASSOCIATE YOURSELF WITH STUPIDITY. FIND LIKE MINDED PEOPLE. DON’T STOP WORKING TILL YOUR WORK IS DONE.  BE EXTREMELY HAPPY AND JUST LIVE YOUR DREAM!!

TENERIFE: MY TRIP

In Travel on November 2, 2012 at 12:55 pm

So, I got back from Tenerife yesterday and all I can say is that I loved the heat, the food, the culture and the friends I made while on holiday. I got to Tenerife on Saturday, last week, and I had to wait a long time to be transported to my hotel by coach. I blame the package holiday. My mum never told me the provider, but I will definitely find out very soon, or simply live to support British Airways.

I got the hotel and of course, I spoke little Spanish. The very first thing I said was Buenos Dias. I felt like a total boss, even though my Spanish was awful. Me, my cousin and my mum got our key cards and headed to our rooms. The hotel was beautiful, very calm, serene and lively. I hope that isn’t a contradiction. The rooms at the hotel were very small, nothing majorly fascinating but beautiful indeed. Three beds next to each other and a single bathroom.

First things first when getting to your destination. FOOOOOD. I was starving by the time I got to the hotel, and so were my companions. We headed down to the restaurant area, that was in the hotel. The food was good, better than English food. I will be doing a special post on food soon.

My next objective after eating in the dining area, was friends, and culture searching. All I can say right now, is that the culture was lively, totally different from the UK and somehow very simple. From reading about the Canary Islands, I knew Brits make up the population, so as I am walking down the beautiful road, I meet this guy from Manchester who lives on the Island. He starts a conversation in patois, and of course, me and my mum start laughing hard. Seconds later, we realise the dude has a strong Manchester accent that is slightly funny. He was majorly social, comes with the job he has. He basically promotes this local restaurant by talking to people passing by. My favourite part of meeting this guy was when he led us from the internet cafe to a Hong Kong restaurant that sells the best salt and pepper chicken. My life was almost complete at that point.

In the next couple days a lot happens. I made a really good friend called Aaron Ward, who is a really cool guy. We first met on the second day, and we become bro’s. My mum accused me of having a bromance. It went from me not knowing anyone, to me finding Aaron in the lobby, finding his hotel room, all the way to eating breakfast, lunch and dinner together. It even got to the point where my mum was interacting with his mum, and family. And then to the point, where he was addressing my mum as ‘mumsie.’ This guy was a joker!  We had this motive to find beautiful Spanish girls (Oh God, they exist everywhere). All I can say is that Aaron was the best friend I have ever made on holiday. I made a lot more friends while on holiday but Aaron was legitimately the GUY!

Tenerife has everything you would want in terms of food. If you want ribs, you can find it. If you want Lebanese food, you can find it. If you want Burger King even, it is somewhere to be found. When you walk down the street you have so many guys promoting a particular restaurant. My best experience in Tenerife when it came to food, was when I walking down the opposite road I usually take. I kept walking and walking. I walk up the road for 5 mins and I have to make a vital decision. Lebanese steak or nice British food joint, with everything you could want. The Lebanese people mentioned Africa and I was taken. The British guy carefully watched me. I was like ‘Deal or No Deal’ at that point. When the Lebanese men mentioned Africa, Uganda (where I come from) and the disjointed history he was trying to show off to me, I had the British guy carefully watching me…..still. Before I entered the Lebanese restaurant, the British guy was like, ‘my pay doesn’t rise or fall if you come or not.’ I felt calm at that point, no hard feeling emerged  A slight laugh between me and him erupted but I was simply taken by steak with onions and mushrooms. The best food I ate the entire week.

I have special dedicated posts coming out in the next week with special themes about my holiday to Tenerife. I can’t give you everything today. Follow if you want to read more about the food, girls, culture, lifestyle and people of Tenerife, in comparison to everyday Britain.

EVERYTHING HAPPENS FOR A REASON

In Self Help on September 12, 2012 at 8:27 pm

Everything in my life, has happened for a reason. Everything that has happened in your life, has happened for a reason.

I wonder how many people actually believe this amazing accusation. I definitely do. I notice that everyting in the world interconnects in some way that makes the world flow in the most extraordinary, most weird and most beautiful way. Of course many things happen in life that we regret, but if we changed the plan of life and could go back in time, what we experience now or later on in life could dramatically change.

Imagine, the time when you met your best friend, or caught the bus to work, or met your boyfriend or girlfriend for the very first time. Imagine what life would like if you shifted the pattern and path of your life for a split second. I bet you wouldn’t have done or achieved the thing that you have achieved now. That clearly shows that the world is so powerful in its connectiveness.

I went to college yesterday and I had no intention of meeting anyone. I got to college early, because I took an early bus which I just caught and met this person, who is now my friend. I caught the bus with a friend who goes to my church. I suspect that if I didn’t catch that bus, with my friend from church, I wouldn’t have laughed on the bus, or met my new friend at college who I get along with pretty well. The world is so strange in its design, it always seems to amaze me.

I live to be the best everyday. I live to go with the flow. I try to never regret or wish for another outcome. I just accept that this path of life, or this present experience is just powerful beyond measure. Life is beautiful, just the way it is. Why wish to go back and repair what is so fascinating?

MY STRANGE DOWNFALL

In Self Help on June 29, 2012 at 5:39 pm

I don’t try to come across as arrogant. I don’t even try to come across as the best person in the world. I just have this unbelievable amount of confidence that keeps me positive every single day. The problem I have in life right now is that I am exploring the world, trying to be the best person I can be and learn everything about myself and others, that I forget how to just chill. I am not talking about chilling in the sense that I am lazy. I can easily be lazy and just allow the world to go by. I already do that, while trying to perfect my life. I  don’t relax in the sense that I am not analysing. I analyse everything, and it works out perfectly fine. I just never switch off. That is my shortfall!

I always have solutions. I always have answers. Even in silence, I am still analysing, but people don’t notice. I don’t have to speak but I am constantly working. I can allow life to flow but in that flow, I am still mentally having a structure that puts me at work. It is like when you are relaxing but you know you are, so you are working. I may not be making sense, but my perfectionist, positive approach in life, brings me down. Just like they say too much of anything isn’t good for you. When I don’t stress, never get angry, and find quick solutions to problems, yes I am flowing but I am not flowing in the sense that I have no idea what is coming next.

Sometimes I wish that instead of not knowing what is coming and being prepared, why don’t I not plan my back up plan and just allow things to fall where they are supposed to. Not try to solve every little thing in the world. Not try to be the perfectionist I am. Simply, just put my mind at rest.

In my relationship, I have this problem where I know what my girlfriend thinks before she thinks it. I don’t tell her of course. So when she finds something shocking or weird, I find it normal as if I knew already. It is like knowing the future without knowing the future. I have my defences ready, and solutions so I am not vulnerable. I constantly tell people, it’s good to feel vulnerable because you are more safe, that tightened up and constraint from movement. My vulnerability causes me to feel pain, but not for so long. I am constantly repairing myself and act as if nothing happened.

CONFUSED LIFE. I am only 17 as well.

 

WHY I DON’T GET ANGRY?

In Self Help on June 23, 2012 at 3:33 am

Why Don’t I Get Angry?

The law of attraction allows me to be positive in the most depressing and negative times. I may experience something that is really bad or supposedly negative, but because of the law of attraction, I am constantly the happiest man alive.

The law of attraction says that if you attract positivity, you get positive outcomes. If you attract negativity, you get negative outcomes. This works in all aspects of my life. If I am positive towards this post and think of this post as something life changing. It is more than likely to be life changing and motivating because of my positive attraction towards it.

I rarely ever get angry in my life, because when I have an experience, I only allow despair to be present for a couple minutes. If I am in despair, because of something very deep, I look at the situation, have sorrow and despair present in my soul, but my positivity keeps me moving and helps me find positive solutions that will slowly solve the puzzle that has been shuffled, separated and randomised.

This links to the fact that I am never really that fazed or disgusted by people, experiences or things in life. Some people call me mad and say ‘Derrick, do you ever feel like lashing out?’ I always tell them ‘Yes, always!’ The fact that we have many emotions, we are allowed to express negativity but if that dominates our lives, then we will be negative human beings that attract negative outcomes.

In addition, this links to everything we do in life. From doing an exam paper, to writing a book, to going to the gym and eating the right foods. If we are not willing to feed our soul with positivity, how do we attract positivity in our daily lives. Our success, is paved by the route we take to success, not the time taken to get there. If we worry about the time rather than the route and journey, we will get no where. If we look too deeply at the negatives in our dreams and hopes, we will never reach there or get the best result out of our chosen hopes and dreams.

So why don’t I get angry often? I just allow positivty to dominate my life. I never allow anyone to tell me negative things that diminish my chances of success. I keep an open mind so I can be critiqued and critical in my thinking. I use critique positively and I never think of myself as more important than anyone else. I am just one, like every other human being in the world. I just keep pushing for sucess and happiness, since despair and defeat are not in my vocabulary anymore.

We will feel sad and hurtful, sometimes pain, but that is just life. We are supposed to feel that when we experience challenges. Just fight it, and be the person on top. Start you day with something positive and finish it with something positive.

Perfection never teaches you. Despair and negative outcomes do, since they are not what you want. You are willing to learn from what you don’t want, since you want something greater. Something that fulfils your happiness, fills you with joy and purpose in life.

Bad Timing

In Self Help on June 17, 2012 at 6:17 pm

We all have bad timing. It is something we experience and learn from everyday. Bad timing for catching a bus, bad timing for a Facebook comment that doesn’t make sense and bad timing for saying something in public that doesn’t make sense.

I have learned in my life, that when we experience ‘bad timing,’ we don’t need to think so much about our actions but instead think less and rationally. From my own experience, I have had bad timing for many things. Some are minor, some not. The second thing I have learned is that as long as we are breathing, we can progress and do amazing things that go beyond that one negative thought or action.

We should live by believing in our instinct. Our instinct gives us a quick solution. The solution should be something that naturally comes and doesn’t take hurtful thinking. The easy solution that pops in your head shouldn’t be misinterpreted for a bad decision. If something is easy, it doesn’t mean it is bad or less amazing or life changing.

Go with the flow, and believe in your instincts. Live to the fullest by believing in your thoughts. Never think more than you need to because at the end of the day, everything becomes easier when you learn from your experiences and mistakes.

WATCHING IN SILENCE

In Self Help on May 28, 2012 at 1:49 pm

The power of silence is extraordinary. Extraordinary always keeps us going.

We live in a world where we have to speak to be heard, shout to be heard over those that speak, feel courage to say what we feel, stick by what we say and never change our character when we stand for something. What if silence was the way forward to an extraordinary, positively filled life of prosperity.

What would life be like if we were just silent for a change. If we just kept silent and watched life happen. If we just listened to people and listened to what every individual we came in contact with said. I believe we would learn so much about ourselves and what we truly value and believe in. Progression as individuals is always best when we speak less, listen and absorb.

I have realised that when we are silent, and ask well thought out and valuable questions, we begin to gain respect from those that are afraid to ask questions. In addition, people admire those that have the courage to ask what they don’t know in confidence. Furthermore, when we are silent, we seem to understand a lot more, because we do not beg to speak or to be heard at every given second we have opportunity to chat absolute useless crap. I am not saying be silent always and preserve what you want to say, but instead think before you speak and speak exactly what you mean, as long as you understand what you are about to say, and people are going to understand your thinking out loud thoughts.

WATCH THE THRONE: LONDON O2

In Hip Hop, Media on May 19, 2012 at 3:02 am

Being a person who isn’t religious when it comes to concerts, I am one of those people that is very curious about what he pays to see live. I booked my tickets to see Jay-Z and Kanye West months back and with my mums interrogation happening to this day, on why I spent £140 on two tickets to see two amazing artists, I actually feel satisfied that I kept my mouth shut for so long after my purchase.

Me and my friend Tatiana arranged to go and see this concert a week before tickets were set for release. My mum was happy and so was I, until I told her the price after I bought the ticket hours later. The day came and I had a typical, boring day at college. My attention span was bad, but I didn’t feel hyped about the concert till I actually entered the arena. Standing in line for an hour and a half, well over the time the doors were supposed to open at 18:45, I felt restless, hot, and weak with my buddy. Lucky we were able to purchase beverages (£3 bottle of Sprite, £2 bottle of water, rip off) before we got our standing spots, 8 rows from the front.

Having to wait a long time for two incredible artists is a pain in the backside on the opening night of the most anticipated European tour. You get frustrated when Jay-Z and Kanye say they will start at 20:30 but actually start at 21:00. You become irritated and fragile among the people squeezed next to you. I had the urgent feeling to go toilet but I didn’t want to lose my space, but intelligently Tatiana, went once we got to North Greenwich and when we entered the arena.

When the lights fade in the arena and people start crowding together, and the lights dim, while people are getting hot, you know something is going down. Kanye West and Jay-Z tear the whole place apart. Collaborating on hit singles, and epic albums apart from not only Watch The Thone, the two artists do have something special about them. My favourite song ‘On To The Next One’ by Hova, just makes me go crazy among people who are expecting Niggas In Paris or something from the Watch The Throne album. Then ‘Diamonds From Sierra Leone’ just makes me go cray. Yes CRAY. The set list for the whole night was a masterpiece. It went from old school hits all the way to new school. Everyone knows I stalk both rappers like I am personally married to them so I knew a lot of the lyrics.

The best part of the night at a Hova and Ye Watch The Throne concert is when ‘Niggas In Paris’ takes over the whole arena at the end of the night. The people go ballistic. Everyone is out of control, and when they finish, the whole arena wants a replay, so Hova and Ye have to come back. I lost my voice in the crowd. I felt really wild and crazy since I was literally a metre from them and survived from dehydration and going H.A.M.

Would I recommend going to a Watch The Throne concert. I actually would recommend it every single time. Just watch out for the girl on girl fights in the seating area, the after concert depression and the wet floors while trying to leave the premises. I had the time of my life.  Hip Hop in earphones after the concert doesn’t compare. Mellow King of Hearts by Lloyd on the way back is recommended. Or classical.

WHY YOU SHOULD ALWAYS DO WHAT YOU ENJOY

In Self Help on May 16, 2012 at 7:44 pm

People have this belief system that they have to do the things they hate to satisfy themselves. They believe that they have to put themselves through hell, guilt and misery to satisfy others. I believe we have the power and intelligence to do what we want, and we don’t have to do things the conventional way always. We should learn to work in the way that works with us, not against us.

If you understand how to work through your challenges and do what you want, according to what you believe will make you succeed, nothing can stop you from achieving your goal. If you want to be a basketball player, but your parents are telling you to become a lawyer, you should always do what you believe is right as long as you understand the challenges you will face when achieving your goal and know what you will do if what you planned to do, fucks up.

You should always enjoy what you do because you only live once. Never regret what you are doing, and never feel you have to do something to satisfy someone else. If you live for yourself, believe in yourself and feel bliss, then your life shall be what you desire.

LET’S NOT LIE. YOU KNOW WHAT YOU WANT TO DO, SO JUST DO IT!