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TOO MUCH MOTIVATION IS A DISEASE

In Self Help on March 27, 2012 at 6:10 pm

As well as suffering from procrastination, I also suffer from a common disease called ‘too much motivation.’ The effects of this disease is an addictive feeling to rebel and push your boundaries. Never doing the little things in life that design your path of success and ground your motivation, determination and perseverance. The cause of this ‘too much motivation’ disease in being inspired by many notable people who change the world completely and the constant feeling of wanting to be like them (Oprah, Mark Zuckerberg, Steven Spielberg and many others).

And that is it really. I constantly feel motivated and inspired and that affects my performance as an individual.

MY LIFE AND MY DISEASE IN DAILY LIFE

1) I feel like rebelling against the education system and persuing my dream, while educating myself.

2) The feeling to travel and see the culture that exists beyond the textbook.

3) Wanting to talk to people at all times. Including school.

4) Trying to inspire people who don’t want to be inspired or motivated.

5) Chasing my dreams by myself because I am the only one who can fully picture my dream effectively.

6) Questioning everything. Literally everything.

7) Never being easily led by others.

8) Seeing things other people don’t see.

9) Finding an alternative to normal things, everyday people do.

10) GOING CRAZY ONCE IN A WHILE (exertion of love of greatness)

 

CURE: It is like asking for a cure for cancer. I don’t know. Do you?

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IT IS IMPORTANT YOU GET BACK UP

In Self Help on March 11, 2012 at 11:58 pm

In life, so many things will pull you down. What pulls you down will rub you in the dirt, to the point  where you cannot move or don’t have the energy or drive to move. It is important that you get back up and start again. Change you strategy, and start again. If you stay on the floor and accept defeat, you shall never succeed or change your ways. Your perception on life will be simple and basic. You will lack the unique complexity that makes you different from everyone else. You will never make it as a notable person, known for his or her greatness, but as the average person who seems to just get by. You will not have anything to hold by your name or seem significant.  I am not saying being notable is important. I am implying you need to feel greatness within that satisfies you as a human being.

Learn to take a risk or risks. Learn to get back up and try again. Learn to fight criticism. Most importantly, learn how to strategically defeat what holds you back, and come back on top. If you do that, you will be a totally new, better, confident and positive man or woman.

I constantly feel a dip in my own personal drive. I fail at things, I should have passed. I work hard and put myself through hell to get by in school and that seems to present negative outcomes. I have found out that I do work hard. The problem is that I am not working strategically smart. If I learn how to work strategically smart, I will not have to put myself through hell, or stress myself out. And that is what you need to do as fully functioning human beings. Never let anything STOP YOU from doing what you are passionate about.

Good Luck!

DRUNK CHESS, NOTABLE SUCCESS

In Self Help on February 29, 2012 at 10:41 pm

The strange time in your life, when you lose hope and drive. It is a terrible feeling, especially when you are a teenager. You live your teenage life, with so much ease because your mum is providing for you, and all you have to do is bring home the acceptable grades. For me that is a C or above. The challenging part of me being in college, is the freedom to do what I want with a couple boundaries and rules. Sometimes I dread having rules and boundaries, because all I want to do, is do what I want, how I want to do it, and for as long as I can do it without interruption.

 

Saying that, I must admit that I am scared of working hard. I love shortcuts to success. I have this constant thought in my head, telling me, ‘you are working way too hard and you are stressing yourself for something that is simple.’ I am not sure if that is absolute crap or genuine. Is my instinct telling me something, or am I seriously deluded in my nature? At the end of the day, I have dreams to do great things in the world, so in order for me to be great, I need to work harder than everyone else to stand out and become the GENIUS I know I am. If I am unable to become the genius I capable of being, I will be tagged as average, just like everyone else. That is definitely not where I want to be.

When I was really young, I had hopes and dreams of getting into Oxford, Cambridge or Harvard. Slowly, when I realised that it would take constant hard work, I was put off. I thought a set number of people were gifted, and would be able to go to those great and prestigious institutions. Then later in my life, I realised, I have control over my future, which I emphasised in my last post. Hard work goes far, and fighting procrastination (which I suffer greatly) is the only way I can succeed. I will admit to myself, that since I got average GCSE grades, I don’t think I have the slightest chance of getting into Oxbridge or Harvard. I still believe in my personal dreams, like writing because, what keeps going is the fact that I know there are always other ways to achieving a goal than the traditional way. There is no one and only way to prestige and notable success.

I need to change my own perception completely, so I can see and reap the rewards that are not open to all. I will invest in my talents and do the things that will go beyond what is so traditional or expected from a typical black teenager, like myself. Or even a typical teenager living in 21st century London.

Marianne Williamson once said:

” Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.
Our deepest fear
is that we are powerful beyond measure.”

We are powerful beyond measure, but we never bother to actually measure our power because we fear disappointment.

THE REASONS I DREAM AND BELIEVE IN OPTIMISM

In Self Help on February 29, 2012 at 12:48 am

In the last couple weeks and months, I have been realising that I love to dream. The fact that I can sleep and think about all the things I want to happen, reflect on what has already happened, and sometimes regret what has happened already, has given me hope in this world. In fact, when I dream and reflect on my life, I inspire myself to realise that I live to do something great on this planet called EARTH. I am in a confusing stage in my life, where I am unsure what I want from life. I don’t exactly know what I want to become. The only things I do know is that I love to write, listen to music, procrastinate, and talk to people for hours on end about things that are pointless. I love to learn about the world, and inspire those that have yet been inspired. I love interacting with other people and getting to know their vibe, and sharing my vibes with them. There is no other way to put it.

I believe that when you set yourself goals in life, you are not only setting aims and objectives, but you are designing your life and shaping your own reality to fit what you see in the world. When I wake up and think to myself ‘Why do I have to go to college?,’ I am realising that I don’t like college but at the same time, I am desiging my future, according to what I feel at that second. Yes, I have dreams and ambitions, but sometimes, in order for me to focus on achieving my dreams and ambitions, I will need to do the things that I don’t particularly like, regardless of how much I hate a specific teacher, or subject matter in my Sociology or Business class. Desiging my world, is only up to me, and I have control of shaping my reality. That is where my optimism kicks in.

I am an optimistic teenage boy. I believe in positivity and feeling good always. I also believe in never focusing on the negatives and concentrating on the positive side of life. If I stay positive and have hope, I believe that whatever I do is destined for greatness.  People constantly tell me that I have too many high hopes and I need to get with reality and stop believing in things that may never happen. They pull me down, and I waste my time trying to justify my reasons to people that are not worth my time, day or voice. If I know I can achieve something, the only thing that is stopping me from achieving my goals is the negative criticism and my own personal belief that I hold to myself. If I control my own personal beliefs, disregard the negative criticism and demand positive criticism from like-minded people, I believe I would do better. Even better, if I control my own mind and interpretations, I believe that nothing will stop me. And forever I will work hard, and continue dreaming till the day comes when I can say I DID IT. 

PEOPLE THAT WATCH AND PEOPLE THAT DO!

In Media, Self Help on November 3, 2011 at 11:55 pm

In society, we have two types of people. The people that watch and the people that do.

The people that watch, always watch what people do. Then they say they want to do things other people are doing, but never actually get round to doing it. They want to do a sport but never go outside to practice. They want to become a rapper or singer, instead they watch so many YouTube video’s of celebrities but never practice. You have people that love to procrastinate. They say they will do something but never get to that point because they have other things on their mind. They lack dedication and drive. Some people simply don’t have time. I always curse 24 hours in a day. I wish the world had 48 hours in a day with short sleep intervals instead of a whole night of sleeping.

The problem with watching, is that you will never get things done. You will get excited by what is happening but never make strategic moves to do what you intended to do. It slows you down as an individual and can cause you to never achieve what you want. This can be avoided by changing your attitude towards what your aims and objectives are in life, and actively taking part in what you want out of life.

The active people in society, are those who actually do what they planned to do. They have passed the stage of watching (quite addictive) and onto the path of doing and achieving. Lets take Top Boy for example. It is a programme that has been aired on Channel 4 this week so far. The actors in Top Boy are actively doing what they want in life and achieving what they want to be (actors). For a percentage of people that watch Top Boy, they are watching the show for entertainment purposes. The people watching the show, a certain percentage are not gaining anything out of it, except entertainment. Entertainment is supposed to excite you, put you on edge and want you to come back for more. From entertaining you, a number of people stop doing what they want to do and achieve in life, and instead, give the actors success by watching their show. It is how the world works, especially the power, the media has on society and changing our thoughts and feelings towards certain things. So people watching Top Boy, are not gaining knowledge or intelligence or financial stability to live but instead, the actors are getting that in return. You are basically allowing the people in the media to gain a lifestyle you wish you had, by watching their shows and listening to their music.

 

You could criticise my view and say, you have worked so hard during the day that you deserve a break and freedom to indulge in art. That is a fair point. We should have times when we can just be lazy. You could question me and say life isn’t about being lazy, it is about being active. My alter-ego, TheLookoutDiary and myself (Derrick), still hold the opinion that the people that do instead of watch, benefit from society on a larger scale. So, as individuals what can we do to change that? We can spend more time achieving our dreams, whatever they may be, or watch active people achieve their dreams. It is up to you.

Due to my passion for writing, I have not watched any episode of Top Boy this week, and don’t intend to until my work is done and my writing for this week is complete.

IT’S NOT ABOUT LOOKING, IT’S ABOUT LIVING

In Relationships, Self Help on November 1, 2011 at 1:04 am

A lot of people my age (16) are getting into relationships in college with people that they just met. After a month or less, they have broken up and back to being friends. A lot of them continue living their life like they didn’t just have a relationship and some actually felt like they had something special and worth keeping. I think being 16, people are still too young to understand the complexity of a relationship. We should be teenagers and enjoy the friendships we have with people, than get into relationships that don’t last very long due to the lack of chemistry. I personally believe, when we are young, we are learning how to treat people in a friendship and how to make a friendship flourish. I believe once we understand how to keep a friendship flourishing, then a committed relationship is the next step.

Being in a relationship is about being at ease with another individual. We should feel comfortable being around them and laugh with them naturally, instead of forcing it to please one another. I personally, haven’t been in a relationship but I have had really good friendships with people. Some friendships become so close, that you give your female friend the the sister role instead of a potential future girlfriend.  You can learn so much from a sister about relationships than anywhere else, mainly because your ‘sister’ is a female herself. If you don’t have a friend like that, you should interact with more females and find one. You could just talk to a bunch of random females you meet on the street, if you have the confidence to ask them for an outside opinion. They will most likely answer your friendly question if you come across as genuinely curious instead of a freak that has been stalking them since they left Starbucks, and crossed the street opposite McDonald’s.

I would also advise any teenage guy who isn’t in a relationship to concentrate on what they are passionate about because if you do, females would admire that, because it shows that women are not on your mind 24/7. I realised this myself, and was told the exact same thing by some of my beautiful female friends from college. I do hang out with women but I do take the time to work on my passion which is writing. I am not pursuing women, but most importantly pursuing my passion for writing. I want to inspire many by my words, and what that means is not looking for women because I know, and you should definitely know, that women will always be there.

I asked a few of my friends for their personal opinion on what is needed for long and lasting relationship. Here are some of their thoughts.

Daniel Cayford:  

”Knowing about what they actually want from life, and seeing how the two of you, together, are stronger than when you were single.”

Christian Hayward: 

”Knowing each other in a extended bit of time and not having sex on the first date.”

Makeda D. O-Cole: 

” You shouldn’t enter something, you know with all your heart, isn’t going to go somewhere and doesn’t have a future.”

A relationship is supposed to last; it isn’t supposed about showing off to your friends that you have girlfriend or boyfriend. It is about liking someone who you really connect with. It is also about sharing the same values and common interests with another individual that makes you happy. Love the people you socially connect with, and develop a lasting and meaningful friendship with your friends. The rest will come in time.

What do you think? Do you agree with what I think? What is your verdict on a lasting relationship or even developing a lasting friendship?

Just Keep Going #2

In Uncategorized on October 9, 2011 at 9:39 am

When I was in high school, I had this friend who goes by the name of ‘Kliicks.’ We were tight and cool. He was passionate and deep in his music like I am enthusiastic and passionate about blogging and business. Well, you know how I did a post on Just Keep Going and never giving up, well that is what my friend did and ever since he found music. He has been improving everyday, on a mission to success.

What a person does will always cause hate, put downs and the often ”that’s for someone else, don’t waste your time trying,”response.

It is people like that who work hard to get what they want and not become lazy that have a closer chance of making it than the person who gives up because they see everyone else doing it. If I kept on saying that there are so many bloggers out there (which is true) and I can’t be the best and have a following, I may as well quit now and find a new ambition. You have to keep going regardless of what life throws at you.

It will not be EASY. If it were easy, everyone will do it!

Just Keep Going!

In Self Help on October 4, 2011 at 3:43 pm

You know when you were young and you had big dreams. You had dreams like becoming really rich, actor or music star like Beyonce or Kanye West. Then you learned about education and then dreams shifted to you wanting to go to Harvard, Oxford, Cambridge or LSE, while still wanting to be a music star or actor or TV presenter. Well, you can still live up to the dreams regardless of what your life has turned out to be.

I didn’t get the best GCSE grades but I still got accepted into sixth form. People think that if they don’t get high standards then their life is over but in actual fact, you can still get back up, dust yourself off and try again.

I believe that grades shouldn’t be the only thing that allows you to pursue your dream and gain success. I am not against education, I just feel that a lot can be learned from being practical in the world. If you look at the world at the moment, people are creating things in their spare time while educating themselves in something completely different. I am a blogger by night but by day, I am a college student studying Philosophy, Sociology, Business and English Literature. The only subject in that list that relates to me blogging is English. If you take time to develop something you enjoy, you will eventually become better and reap the rewards. It is always going to be hard at first but as time goes on, it will become easier and second nature.

What you have to understand about life, education, principles and socialising is that everyone is a human being. We all make mistakes and we are not perfect. That means that people are going to have to accept 98% achievement instead of 100% because again, no one is perfect. That also means that we can still come back to be closer to perfect if we learn from our mistakes. Everyone is different and that’s what makes us unique human beings. If people were perfect, life would be shit!

My advice to anyone reading this is to continue to fight to be the best at what you do but never give up because when you do, then you feel like something is empty inside of you!