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CHARLIE ROSE MADE ME THINK ABOUT PASSION AND PURPOSE

In Self Help on November 12, 2012 at 11:59 pm

I was watching Charlie Rose today on Bloomberg. One of my favourite channels on TV. I don’t ever watch Charlie Rose but I know he interviews successful and great people that are doing life changing things in their field of work, talents and passion. Today Charlie Rose was interviewing Dan Stevens (Downton Abbey), David Strathairn (The Bourne Trilogy) and Jessica Chastain (The Help) on the play ‘ The Heiress,’ which is currently being shown on Broadway.

What I found interesting about this particular show is that they were talking about passion and the purpose of a person. Charlie Rose said something so clear about purpose and a person wanting to do something:

I want to become a writer. Instead, I have to write.

I think Charlie Rose couldn’t have said it better. You can’t say to yourself ‘I want to become a writer.’ I think you just have to do it. You have to have the feeling inside you that you have to write, or you have to do something. The feeling that when you do it, you will feel satisfied. You can’t say to yourself you want to become. You just got to instinctively feel within yourself, that it is your duty to do something life changing. It doesn’t have to be writing, it could be acting, it could be singing, it could to become an athlete. A part of you has a self created mission statement that makes very clear that you have to complete that mission. No ifs, no buts, just do!

My advice to anyone reading this. Don’t over think your desires in life. If you don’t know what to do, just relax and explore everything as much as you can. I remember Jessica Chastain saying on Charlie Rose that has her grandmother took her to see a production. She was really young at the time, and she saw a small girl her age on stage, and automatically knew it wasn’t what she wanted to do, but something she felt connected with and had to do. Something she felt deep within that made her think ‘I need to be on that stage, right there, in that position, portraying that character.’ And of course, Jessica Chastain is a brilliant actress. She stuck to her plan, stuck to her desire, stuck to her purpose and flourished. Just like prominent actor David Strathairn.

Nothing stopped these people in their path, because they knew they were working towards a great and satisfying result. I keep thinking, how come I can’t read a book fast and complete it in a week. I just don’t apply my passion. Jessica Chastain on the other hand, finished reading the script of ‘The Heiress’ on a plane journey. Yes it is her job, but it is a job she loves to wakes up every morning thinking ‘This makes me happy and complete.’ I guarantee that is how she feels. I don’t have to reference that statement.

Love what you do always. Look deep within yourself to find purpose, and simply love every moment you live.

FEELING SATISFIED

In Relationships, Self Help on September 23, 2012 at 12:29 pm

In the last couple weeks I have been questioning my identity, purpose and values. I have fundamental values that are rooted in moral principles. I do things that are good, instead of doing things that are seen to be right. The challenge I am facing right now is the question of how and when do you feel ultimate satisfaction in your life? I am questioning if money brings satisfaction, or does love bring satisfaction, or does focusing on your purpose bring satisfaction and how do you manage it and get the ball rolling for a beautiful and satisfying life.

I can’t lie and say that growing up to the age of 17, I haven’t thought that happiness and satisfaction comes from the salary threshold. The salary threshold, being a certain amount of income that brings an abundance of living. Being 17 now, I think it is actually bogus. A household income can never satisfy a human being. It doesn’t matter how much money you make. The truth is, when you make a certain amount of money, all you will feel is the need to make even more money because it opens up more opportunity, that can satisfy your rush for material ownership. Of course, I constantly tell myself, ‘I wish I had one million pounds right now, so I could travel from London to Miami, Miami to New York, and New York to Milan. Yes, I want the opportunity to do it, but how am I as an individual supposed to feel satisfied with the trip if I don’t feel satisfied with the person I am right now? I think of materials and holidays as a bonus to the satisfaction one feels within himself.

Another problem with satisfaction is this thing called LOVE. We all look for our soul mate. Our perfect partner. The person that completes up entirely. Then I think to myself, everyone wants a perfect relationship with a brilliant lifestyle. The struggle we have right now, is feeling satisfied and loving ourselves. Yes we are suppose to put people first but how are we suppose to do that, if we are incomplete in ourselves? You can’t enter a relationship with the hope that another person will solve your problems and makes you happy. You enter a relationship because through growth, you and your partner can learn from each other and have an abundance of satisfication. If you read my post on perfect relationships, then you would understand the clarity of knowing what you want and acceptance. I have expectations for a relationship, but before I get any female that I desire, I have to act in the way I described my perfect female, because how I present myself is what I will attract. Pauline, a fellow blogger, clearly states that in her post about attraction.

Satisfaction for me comes from my belief in God. I believe that he guides me to everything that needs to be present in my life. He helps me to understand my purpose. He helps me to solve situations that are problematic. He just gives me an answer to all my problems in the most clear way ever. As long I feel satisfied in my belief in God, I believe I will always be satisfied within myself, and no one can ever top that feeling. PERIOD!

The Unpredictable Life

In Uncategorized on April 22, 2012 at 10:30 pm

NB. The people are made up

You know how people say life is unpredictable.

You make plans to do things and prepare the best you can, but it seems like nature doesn’t want to work with you, or see you through it. Nature comes along with its magic wand, lightsaber, or boxing gloves, and knocks you out, or simply releases you of energy, or control of your situation.

On many occasions, I wonder if life is unpredictable. I wonder if my life should be lived a certain way. I wonder if every little thing I do, will have a big effect on the outcome of my life. If I miss a bus, and catch the next one, will my whole life be changed forever? Or will the people I interact with or the simple things I change have a big effect on the outcome of my life or their life. I always question this ‘lifestyle’ or ‘human performance’ or this ‘living synchronicity’ that seems to exist among me and all the other humans that exist on this planet, called Earth. Who controls the outcome in our life? Is it us, or do other humans interfere with what is supposed to happen in our life. Again, it is a question to ask if life is supposed to be planned or forever unpredictable.

The Business Man:

Tom has starting capital of £1 million (savings) and has a unique business idea that is likely to be successful. He could be consulted by key business magnets in the industry about the viability of his business. He could make an exceptional business plan, and do his business risk assessments, known as a SWOT analysis, and could open up a fashion store in two years’ time. So Tom successfully started his business and the business made £2 million in revenue. It is forever growing.

The Traveller:

Lindsey is going from London, to New York. She has a flight at 08:00pm in the morning at London Heathrow, Terminal 5. She packs her bags two days before. Goes shopping the next day and buys all the essential goods needed for her trip. She gets to the airport, forgets her passport at home, and her flight leaves in one hour and a half. She has her phone but it is on red battery life, because she forgot to charge it overnight. Lindsey attempts to call home. Sadly, she can’t get in touch with anyone at home, after using her phone which dies and the customer service desk telephone. Lindsey has to go home, and she cannot replace her flight unless she pays a cancellation and reschedule fee of £200, which she doesn’t have because the purpose of her trip is to visit family. She only has $50 for a four day trip.

The Writer:

Ray, a really talented writer, completes a thriller novel, which has taken him six months of his life. He has suffered criticism from lots of people, who believe he won’t make it as a writer, and his work isn’t worthy, but Ray keeps going on and that has led him to the point where he is able to get his novel published by the Harper Collins. On the day of sending his manuscript, his laptop crashes and all of his valuable data is lost. His flash drive is connected to the laptop and his back up file containing his manuscript is deleted. He didn’t save it anywhere else except his flash drive and laptop. This was his living purpose since January.

The questions that make me wonder. Was the entrepreneur supposed to be successful? He planned really well. He forecasted his business plans and prepared effectively for the worse to come. He still had his home as an asset (worth £3 million), but didn’t have a job, because he quit his job to give his business venture, his full attention. If he failed, he wouldn’t be doing anything, and he would be valued at £3 million rather than £4 million, after spending £1 million on developing on his business idea. He was successful, and the worse didn’t occur. Lindsey didn’t make her flight, didn’t get to go on holiday, and lost all the money she has put into her trip (£400), leaving her with $50, which she hoped to spend in New York City. She simply went home with the bits of change she had. Was her life supposed to have ended up like that or was it all her fault and bad planning? Did an external force have control over her operations? Ray didn’t retrieve his files. He had to start from scratch again, and all his hard work went to waste. Was it really his time to publish, or was he supposed to be doing something else in his life. Or was he being protected from a bad outcome or an unfortunate event?

The feeling of life being predictable and unpredictable makes us question our reality and process of living. Do we live for a greater force or are we supposed to live and not plan? We can plan so much, but it takes something so little to destroy our own created forces that give us power and control. The essence of living is far from being known to man or woman, but if we did know, would we plan so much, or just live in the very second and not care about sudden change?

The ability to plan and change gives us the power to gain wealth (financial and non-financial) and live with security, but the security we have is nothing if a greater force controls every action man or woman does.

DRUNK CHESS, NOTABLE SUCCESS

In Self Help on February 29, 2012 at 10:41 pm

The strange time in your life, when you lose hope and drive. It is a terrible feeling, especially when you are a teenager. You live your teenage life, with so much ease because your mum is providing for you, and all you have to do is bring home the acceptable grades. For me that is a C or above. The challenging part of me being in college, is the freedom to do what I want with a couple boundaries and rules. Sometimes I dread having rules and boundaries, because all I want to do, is do what I want, how I want to do it, and for as long as I can do it without interruption.

 

Saying that, I must admit that I am scared of working hard. I love shortcuts to success. I have this constant thought in my head, telling me, ‘you are working way too hard and you are stressing yourself for something that is simple.’ I am not sure if that is absolute crap or genuine. Is my instinct telling me something, or am I seriously deluded in my nature? At the end of the day, I have dreams to do great things in the world, so in order for me to be great, I need to work harder than everyone else to stand out and become the GENIUS I know I am. If I am unable to become the genius I capable of being, I will be tagged as average, just like everyone else. That is definitely not where I want to be.

When I was really young, I had hopes and dreams of getting into Oxford, Cambridge or Harvard. Slowly, when I realised that it would take constant hard work, I was put off. I thought a set number of people were gifted, and would be able to go to those great and prestigious institutions. Then later in my life, I realised, I have control over my future, which I emphasised in my last post. Hard work goes far, and fighting procrastination (which I suffer greatly) is the only way I can succeed. I will admit to myself, that since I got average GCSE grades, I don’t think I have the slightest chance of getting into Oxbridge or Harvard. I still believe in my personal dreams, like writing because, what keeps going is the fact that I know there are always other ways to achieving a goal than the traditional way. There is no one and only way to prestige and notable success.

I need to change my own perception completely, so I can see and reap the rewards that are not open to all. I will invest in my talents and do the things that will go beyond what is so traditional or expected from a typical black teenager, like myself. Or even a typical teenager living in 21st century London.

Marianne Williamson once said:

” Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.
Our deepest fear
is that we are powerful beyond measure.”

We are powerful beyond measure, but we never bother to actually measure our power because we fear disappointment.

New Years Is Hours Away (London)

In Uncategorized on December 31, 2011 at 8:12 pm

If any of you don’t know, I live in London, so NEW YEARS is round the corner. I have had a good year. I have learned so much about myself. I have made life changing friends, inspirational friends, and friends that I dismiss because as time moves on, people change. Sometimes for the better, sometimes for the worse.

I have learned that communication is powerful among us human beings. I have talked with people about shallow things like ‘Is Jay Z a better rapper than Kanye?’. I have talked to people about deep things like politics and if freedom actually exists among us human beings. With everyday going, I have learned that as we grow, we become more intelligent and with positive communication, the world can change completely. In this year, I have realised that in order to do anything you want, you have to work HARD for it. You should never give up and never procrastinate. Never put things off thinking you will do it at a later stage. Just make the most of the time you have. In addition, I have learned that you should take advantage of you talents and your ability to do anything you want in your life.

Right, at this second, I hope to develop knowledge that I can preach to the world and reach the people that I cannot see. I hope to do what is good rather than what seems to be good. I want to do the the right thing always and never say ‘because 2012 start in a few hours, I will start then.’ I would gladly start at this second.

Next year is indeed 2012. That means another year on this planet. We as people should not change ourselves to fit other peoples needs, but become better people within ourselves and hopefully fulfil our own happiness. I believe that we should not wait for greatness but seek greatness within ourselves wherever we can. And that means starting RIGHT now!

 

HAPPY NEW YEARS TO EVERYONE, ALL OVER THE WORLD!

PEOPLE THAT WATCH AND PEOPLE THAT DO!

In Media, Self Help on November 3, 2011 at 11:55 pm

In society, we have two types of people. The people that watch and the people that do.

The people that watch, always watch what people do. Then they say they want to do things other people are doing, but never actually get round to doing it. They want to do a sport but never go outside to practice. They want to become a rapper or singer, instead they watch so many YouTube video’s of celebrities but never practice. You have people that love to procrastinate. They say they will do something but never get to that point because they have other things on their mind. They lack dedication and drive. Some people simply don’t have time. I always curse 24 hours in a day. I wish the world had 48 hours in a day with short sleep intervals instead of a whole night of sleeping.

The problem with watching, is that you will never get things done. You will get excited by what is happening but never make strategic moves to do what you intended to do. It slows you down as an individual and can cause you to never achieve what you want. This can be avoided by changing your attitude towards what your aims and objectives are in life, and actively taking part in what you want out of life.

The active people in society, are those who actually do what they planned to do. They have passed the stage of watching (quite addictive) and onto the path of doing and achieving. Lets take Top Boy for example. It is a programme that has been aired on Channel 4 this week so far. The actors in Top Boy are actively doing what they want in life and achieving what they want to be (actors). For a percentage of people that watch Top Boy, they are watching the show for entertainment purposes. The people watching the show, a certain percentage are not gaining anything out of it, except entertainment. Entertainment is supposed to excite you, put you on edge and want you to come back for more. From entertaining you, a number of people stop doing what they want to do and achieve in life, and instead, give the actors success by watching their show. It is how the world works, especially the power, the media has on society and changing our thoughts and feelings towards certain things. So people watching Top Boy, are not gaining knowledge or intelligence or financial stability to live but instead, the actors are getting that in return. You are basically allowing the people in the media to gain a lifestyle you wish you had, by watching their shows and listening to their music.

 

You could criticise my view and say, you have worked so hard during the day that you deserve a break and freedom to indulge in art. That is a fair point. We should have times when we can just be lazy. You could question me and say life isn’t about being lazy, it is about being active. My alter-ego, TheLookoutDiary and myself (Derrick), still hold the opinion that the people that do instead of watch, benefit from society on a larger scale. So, as individuals what can we do to change that? We can spend more time achieving our dreams, whatever they may be, or watch active people achieve their dreams. It is up to you.

Due to my passion for writing, I have not watched any episode of Top Boy this week, and don’t intend to until my work is done and my writing for this week is complete.

IT’S NOT ABOUT LOOKING, IT’S ABOUT LIVING

In Relationships, Self Help on November 1, 2011 at 1:04 am

A lot of people my age (16) are getting into relationships in college with people that they just met. After a month or less, they have broken up and back to being friends. A lot of them continue living their life like they didn’t just have a relationship and some actually felt like they had something special and worth keeping. I think being 16, people are still too young to understand the complexity of a relationship. We should be teenagers and enjoy the friendships we have with people, than get into relationships that don’t last very long due to the lack of chemistry. I personally believe, when we are young, we are learning how to treat people in a friendship and how to make a friendship flourish. I believe once we understand how to keep a friendship flourishing, then a committed relationship is the next step.

Being in a relationship is about being at ease with another individual. We should feel comfortable being around them and laugh with them naturally, instead of forcing it to please one another. I personally, haven’t been in a relationship but I have had really good friendships with people. Some friendships become so close, that you give your female friend the the sister role instead of a potential future girlfriend.  You can learn so much from a sister about relationships than anywhere else, mainly because your ‘sister’ is a female herself. If you don’t have a friend like that, you should interact with more females and find one. You could just talk to a bunch of random females you meet on the street, if you have the confidence to ask them for an outside opinion. They will most likely answer your friendly question if you come across as genuinely curious instead of a freak that has been stalking them since they left Starbucks, and crossed the street opposite McDonald’s.

I would also advise any teenage guy who isn’t in a relationship to concentrate on what they are passionate about because if you do, females would admire that, because it shows that women are not on your mind 24/7. I realised this myself, and was told the exact same thing by some of my beautiful female friends from college. I do hang out with women but I do take the time to work on my passion which is writing. I am not pursuing women, but most importantly pursuing my passion for writing. I want to inspire many by my words, and what that means is not looking for women because I know, and you should definitely know, that women will always be there.

I asked a few of my friends for their personal opinion on what is needed for long and lasting relationship. Here are some of their thoughts.

Daniel Cayford:  

”Knowing about what they actually want from life, and seeing how the two of you, together, are stronger than when you were single.”

Christian Hayward: 

”Knowing each other in a extended bit of time and not having sex on the first date.”

Makeda D. O-Cole: 

” You shouldn’t enter something, you know with all your heart, isn’t going to go somewhere and doesn’t have a future.”

A relationship is supposed to last; it isn’t supposed about showing off to your friends that you have girlfriend or boyfriend. It is about liking someone who you really connect with. It is also about sharing the same values and common interests with another individual that makes you happy. Love the people you socially connect with, and develop a lasting and meaningful friendship with your friends. The rest will come in time.

What do you think? Do you agree with what I think? What is your verdict on a lasting relationship or even developing a lasting friendship?

Review: Whore’s Glory

In Movies on October 20, 2011 at 5:59 pm

I went down to the premier of Whore’s Glory yesterday at Leicester Square with my aunt. Through days of hardship, the film looks deep into the daily lives of women and their fight for survival. It crosses borders to seek the truth behind the drive of these women to do such a thing to survive in this sort of world we live in today.

The film raised many issues regarding women and how they are portrayed and used as commodities in society. It also allowed me to look at how, sociologically, they functioned in a capitalist ideological world where everyone is in competition to survive through a hierarchical structure.  The film Whores’ Glory powerfully captured the lives of prostitutes across boarders in Bangladesh, Mexico and Thailand.

Even though the film is deep, graphic and depressing, it is a must see!

I would definitely advise anyone who is interested in culture, lifestyle and women’s roles in society to watch this heart-felt documentary.

Should we blame this on capitalism, the individual or culture? Or is there something we just seem to not understand about our world?

The Stranger

In Uncategorized on October 11, 2011 at 9:53 pm

MATURE CONTENT!

I love being a stranger to people. They don’t know anything about me and I don’t know anything about them. I can show any persona of myself that I want and all that the strangers of my personality can do is either accept it or deny it. That is the true beauty of being a stranger.

In college, I have made a group of amazing friends that are really honest people. What I mean is that we are all crazy in our own way and it works because at least when your freaky,  interesting, and your funny shitty behaviour comes out, everyone accepts it and it’s honest!

In the last couple weeks, I have become less of a stranger and more of ‘the guy’ that people know around school. I am not trying to act like I am popular. I am still Derrick, the weird guy with a ‘strange’ mind and messed up but brilliant persona.

Everyone feels weird in a groups at first but we gradually feel comfortable after some time. One of my friends (Ali) was average (my word for boring)  at first, then his funny character blossomed and I have to say, I haven’t met anyone funnier than him. That is the same for my other friends Makeda, Elliot, Geneva, Pablo, Amy, Chioma, Christian and Alie!

What everyone should take from this post is that we will always feel weird around new people, but once we feel comfortable, we all become crazy and look like we take drugs!

I THINK! I THINK?

In Uncategorized on July 11, 2011 at 4:55 pm

I had my first day at work. My workplace being my grandparents house. Yeah seriously! My job is working for my aunt and helping her with social networking on the web to improve her fashion label. I really enjoyed it because that is my first client of my business which I randomly came across this morning. The reason it is crazy and weird and random is because I didn’t expect it to be my own business, I just expected it to be me working for someone to improve their social status. So I thought to myself, let me get clients and help them with social networking on the web. I have work coming soon which I hope could help with me being popular on the web as well helping people within their own business.

I really like business as I have constantly said many times and I have become interested not only in business but in property investment. I know there is money to be earned with houses and I am aiming to get as many houses as possible to reach a £10 million income mark. That is a dream but a dream that can be achieved with the help of some family members that are related to that field of work. I choose houses as an investment above shares and other money making schemes because it is simpler in terms of understanding the fundamentals and who wouldn’t want to earn money off a house and land.

Over the past few days really experienced many things. I have experienced how to work with others, how to make decisions upon the progression of my own self. I have even learned a lot about Derrick (me). I live each day just experiencing what comes and trying my best to get the most out of each day. As a teen, I always question if I am working way to hard, or if I am working on things past my age but I just enjoy what I do everyday, that’s all I can say really.

One more thing, I came across this site that has brilliant fashion photo’s. I found it after my first day of work. It makes you think your fashion style is practically simple and useless. I think 80% of me being on the site was because of the women. The other percentage was the clothing, lets be honest. Now that site defines ‘swag.’ Check out the website Look Book.

Question: What is your favourite fashion label?