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Morning Message

In Poetry on November 21, 2012 at 4:26 pm

My doodling in the library today.

As I wake,

I thank another day,

Erase my memory,

Reminisce on past,

Hope for the future,

She says morning,

I say I,

She says Miss,

And I say You,

Automatic.

 

She expresses her await for my waking call,

Waking message,

I tweet a favourite,

Touch a paper,

Read a statement,

Statement of love,

Passion and Pursuit.

 

Those hours of silence,

Broken by the fingers,

Mended by the imagination,

And uplifted by the vision,

I surely missed her message.

 

The love I called for,

The message I aspired to read,

The story I desired to listen to,

Revealed.

 

I wish she was upon me,

Pen signature,

Blueberry flow,

Black print perfection,

A lesson of care,

Never ending.

 

Technology has no boundary,

PC operates,

Memory adjusted,

Twitter application,

Hello,

I waited for you to wake up,

Is the unconditional message.

SWEET LOVE!

In Poetry, Self Expression on November 20, 2012 at 10:29 pm

NB. This is R Rated Content!

I came home today after college and this girl I talk to from the states messaged me, and we started talking about romantic things because she is a hopeless romantic who is absolutely gorgeous and I am a hopeless romantic too, but I never show it. We were talking for a couple hours and we decided to write poetry together. She wrote half other poem and I wrote the other half.

NB. We aren’t romantically involved…………………………………yet. lol

What would I have to do?

Who would I have to be?

For you to come over and make sweet love to me?

Must I climb the highest cliff?

Or swim along the ocean floor?

Could you just make love to my body and soul?

Or would you demand more?

Could you take me as I am?

With all my issues and my flaws?

Pull me to your bare chest without a hesitation or a pause?

Wrap me in your passion,

Expose your every need,

Press your lips to mine and let every secret be freed,

Sprinkle your tears across my cheek,

Confess your every desire,

Moan my name!

Call me yours,

And set my soul on fire!

Need me more with every breath that slips into your chest.

Please me nightly,

Miss me daily,

And never compare me to the rest,

Indeed,

As my heart grows fonder by the distance,

So does my confession and desire,

As I climb higher,

I demand your secret touch,

Your scent,

Your curves that are so bent,

I rely on your sweet breath,

That I tantalizingly taste with my tongue,

The ever sensation that fills my heart,

Fills my heart with joy,

Make love to the sacred skin,

That is as precious as the finest cloth,

Finest texture,

That fits your perfect curves,

Your perfect shape,

Let me expose your greatness,

Let me dig deep to dominate your body,

Expose your soul,

Let it free,

Interlock our fingers in unison,

Hold tight for all the members,

And keep holding,

Never leave,

Make love,

Unseen penetration that unfolds in orgasmic symbolic threads,

Finally breathe hard,

Fall asleep.

By Hannah Lee and TheLookoutDiary

PEOPLE’S STUPIDITY WILL FAIL YOU

In Relationships, Self Help, Travel on November 11, 2012 at 4:17 pm

Every time you take someones criticism personally, you will fail.

Every time you accomplish someone else’s dream, you will fail.

Every time you indulge in someone else’s stupidity, you shall fail.

Every time you think of changing your dream, you will automatically lose your chance to be happy and therefore you will fail.

Every time you over think about your chances of your dream becoming true, you actually don’t really want it and as a consequence, you will fail.

Every time you ever doubt yourself, you will fuck up and fail.

I hate when people tell me they can’t accomplish something because of the chances. I hate that excuse above everything. To be honest, I don’t care about anyone’s criticism. A persons criticism is an insecurity within themselves.  Just live how you wish to be by working hard from now.

I have three dreams in life so far, only being 17 right now.

  • Travel Writer: Someone who travels the world and writes books, magazines, and online articles on the topic of culture, relationships and how the motive of sharing and receiving love makes us interconnected in the most beautiful way.
  • Take care of my family
  • Have a beautiful wife, who has and lives the same dream as me through our love and commitment.

If I accomplish those, I am seriously a happy person.

Why can’t you be happy doing what you want in your life?

NEVER EVER STOP DREAMING. NEVER ASSOCIATE YOURSELF WITH STUPIDITY. FIND LIKE MINDED PEOPLE. DON’T STOP WORKING TILL YOUR WORK IS DONE.  BE EXTREMELY HAPPY AND JUST LIVE YOUR DREAM!!

DON’T CHASE GIRLS IF YOU WANT A GOOD LIFE

In Relationships, Self Help on September 6, 2012 at 6:42 pm

If you want a good or fruitful life, don’t chase girls. They will seriously slow you down.

Everyone wants the perfect relationship, or the relationship that lasts forever. We all want it, most of us are positively driven human beings.

I went to college for induction recently, and my first instinct was ‘wow, look at all these beautiful women.’ Now, I knew to myself, if I talk to these girls, friend zone and brother Derrick comes out. And clearly they will be a distraction. I need to focus and lay the foundations for my future.

This is and was my solution. Admire from a far. Work hard so I get the ideal life I aspire to get. Be myself and do everything in my power to make sure every action or word Derrick comes out with, is truly honest, and valuable.

Girls will slow you down, if you don’t understand why you are educating yourself in an educational institution. The girls that truly appreciate you and care for you will not bother you when you invest in your future by investing in something so powerful called knowledge. Girls that aren’t at your level will make reasons why you should be hanging out with them instead of getting the grades. They won’t out right say that, but their approach is deadly.

Why would you want to get into a relationship that doesn’t help you develop as a person, but belittles your potential. Who can you talk to that appreciates you and what you have to say, and wants to support you?

Little Story:

I was at break for 20 minutes at college. I was hanging out with my friends Geneva and Darren (most kindest and loveliest couple in school). I was talking to them about general things, summer break, and ambitions. I saw this lonely girl by herself, who was in my old class, before I moved to a new class in the same morning. My college sometimes have classes with over capacity at the start of the year. Well a part of me was thinking introduce myself, get to know new people. And a part of me was saying, no need, first day, CONCENTRATE! 

I was having two voices in my head. My friend Ali, who taught me everything I knew about women this year, would say ‘Derrick, grow some balls, and talk to her, you never know.’ My brother Etim would say ‘Why would you do it? What are you gaining from it. You go to college to learn so go with the flow of education and a woman will be in your path and direction of travel. May be next to you, may be in front or behind you, but definitely valuable when she and you find each other.’ So I ducked out and continued my day, and I can honestly say, I don’t feel regret. 

Balancing personal and social development is so key to achieving the best from life. Some people chase money, some chase love, some chase girls and some people simply chase.  So my advice to all the people reading is admire, invest, go with your individual flow and enjoy the wait for the right person.

If you want to be the top lawyer in the country, or the best music artist, or the next specialist doctor, why would you consume your valuable time trying to attract girls. I thought women like guys who are themselves. Giving mixed messages of your pretend and real character can damage how you interact with women and what they think of you. If you are pretentious and a girl gives into it, then she won’t like your honest character. And don’t be yourself  in front of a girl then change to a pretentious character to overly impress a girl. It just isn’t cool.

Let life take control!

WHO ARE YOU TALKING TO NOW?

In Relationships on August 30, 2012 at 1:01 pm

So I am a single, 17 year old and living life positively. I guess that is what matters right??

So when I broke up with my ex-girlfriend, I was like, I am going to learn from my mistakes, not judge anyone, and not try to change any individual to fit my character. I will be myself, learn from others and speak less, and listen more. That has always been my motto in life, but I never took it seriously till I broke up with my ex-girlfriend.

A couple months go by, and I feel like a changed individual. I am happy. I get along with people a lot more. I am more accepting and I am seeing the positivity in everyone. But one thing I constantly think about is ‘why would your ex-girlfriend be so interested in who you are talking too?’ I thought that doesn’t matter if you break up and move on, unless your ex secretly still likes you.

Since positivity should be self driven by self development, of course you don’t need to snoop in and out of peoples lives, like you are a CIA agent, reporting to cupid.  Move on, learn from what you have experienced but don’t try to relive what you have already lived. It won’t ever have the same value. It doesn’t matter what you do.

I am happy anyway. I love laughter, positivity, smiles and just the good feeling inside that says life will just okay.

PROLONG A FRIENDSHIP BEFORE ANY RELATIONSHIP

In Relationships, Self Help on August 11, 2012 at 11:57 pm

Prolong a friendship for as long as possible. Plant the seeds before the tree is ready to grow and shoot.

Why do I say prolong a friendship? I say prolong a friendship for as long as possible because it allows the foundations to be planted deep in the soil. The soil is only rich if the foundations of a relationship is catered for and examined for a long time. What does that mean in plain English? What I am saying is before you jump into a relationship, hoping for the best without preparing for the worse, you need to make sure you understand the person you are going out with. I am not saying understand them perfectly, but fully make sure you and your future partner have similar interests. I have said before that values and beliefs are very important, but if the girl doesn’t like the same food as you or the same kind of movies, you will have problems. You and your partner need to enjoy each others company to the very last second. You need to like the same things as your partner so there is no quarrels or disagreements. Of course sometimes you might need to compramise but if your partner only likes Jazz, and you hate it, there will be problems, regardless of how strong the values you have with one another.

You may have have the same values as your partner, but if the approach isn’t the same or similar then there will be a few problems. You both may believe in success, but what success means for one individual, may not be the same for another. This is very deep stuff because connectivity and similarity in how you and your partner live your lives needs to combine together like half a heart with the other half of a heart. The heart doesn’t work effectively if one heart is purple, and the other is red. It doesn’t matter if they are the same size and diameter.

I have had amazing and less amazing friendships. What I have realised is that friendships last longer than relationships in a very generalised sense. The reason relationships work so well is because two parties realised that before they took the leap of faith, they made sure they wore their helmet and had the right size suit to execute a fantastic dive and smooth landing. If you don’t build a friendship based on foundations and similar interests, you will have a crash landing and it won’t be nice. Take as long as possible to prepare yourself for the jump or leap. It is seriously worth it. Yes, women will get bored. And yes, men will get bored if the person is taking so long, but if you wait long enough, someone who is right for you will wait with you and for you. They will stand by you when you fall, and fly with you when you rise.

Sometimes, you and another person may jump into a relationship not knowing much about the other person, only hoping for the best. What I can say from experience is don’t let all the glamour of being in a relationship get into your head. It is hard work, it if fun, but if you don’t prepare yourself or are ready, you will flop. Don’t only look at the positives, but examine the negatives and see whether you can cope with the person.

Ask yourself this harshly: DO THE POSITIVES OF THIS RELATIONSHIP OUTWEIGH THE NEGATIVES GREATLY?

You should never lower your standards to fit another person. You should never say another woman or man is a standard. Only standard yourself. You should never continue a relationship for the sake of it. You should never try to change a person, only accept. If you cannot accept the person, don’t be in that relationship.

It is majorly important that you ask simple questions towards your partner or friend. Questions like ‘Tell me about your morning.’ Simple questions are always the best questions because the way a man or woman answers it, can either attract you to them or make you less interested in them. An individual has the ability to approach their story of their morning, but the way this particular woman or man described it, attracted you to them. May seem trash talk, but believe me, it makes a hell of a difference.

Simplicity is key in any relationship. Being deep is important but if you are simple, there is no need to be deep because everything complex, was once simple.

I never used the word love in this post because love comes when your friendship is exactly what you want it to be. You will know when it hits you. I do not need to explain.

Girls Don’t Like Close Guys!

In Relationships, Self Help on December 13, 2011 at 5:55 pm

Quickie: A quick post I am dying to share!

I recently did a post about relationships, and where we stand in them, in the post modern world. The question I want to answer is ‘why don’t girls like close guys?’ They simply don’t. Girls don’t like it when a guy opens up to a girl straight away and tell them their whole life story. It freaks them out or it makes them automatically put you in the friend zone. Girls like a challenge. If you aren’t challenging or hard to get, you are simply not interesting. It is the same with guys. Guys don’t like girls that are easy to get. The easy girls are simply boring.

As a blogger, I love to interact with people and get along with them in the shortest time possible, because I have other things to do like writing,education and my personal pursuit of happiness and development as an individual. Also every second is time, and time is money. I don’t have much time to do  the long waiting process of 4 to 6 weeks before you get a girls number or Facebook or BBM. I usually like to give myself, a week maximum and if nothing happens, I move on. Sometimes, I talk to female bloggers online and I give them more time (1 month) just because, I naturally give people in my field more time to interact with me. Also I believe, people in the same community and field, tend to look out for each other, anyway. For me, that is the process that works for me, it may not work for everyone.

Using the above example, in terms of relationships, being close with a female is bad. Telling her your life story, is also really bad. You gotta give yourself distance and make females want to talk to you. It is the same with girls attracting boys. A girl has to distance herself, so that the guy realises he has to work for a girl who hasn’t got her priority on a him. The priority is living your life to full and taking charge of it.

One thing I learned in the last week, was that sometimes you can rush things, and that can really annoy the person you are interacting with, regardless if you like them, or getting to know them. It is like invading their personal space and rushing a slow process that needs to be grounded. If you are a person that is constantly doing something in your life and wants to build strong relationships with people, a rush process is good but it is risky because you are rushing the grounding stage and hoping it can solidify in the future.

 

WHERE DO WE STAND IN RELATIONSHIPS

In Relationships, Self Help on December 3, 2011 at 8:10 pm

In this post, I am going to talk about what a relationship means from a male perspective. Then, I will give it over to beautiful Brooklynn to give her female perspective of what a relationship means and why it’s important. I haven’t been in a relationship but I am waiting for the right person. Brooklynn, on the other hand, has and she will give advice from her own experience.

TheLookoutDiary:

When it comes to dating and relationships, I believe you should go out with someone that you really get along with. Never go out with a woman that doesn’t get along with you and doesn’t have similar interests as you. If you talk and do the things you like and not worry about if the woman is going to like it or not, or if she will like the conversation or not, it makes life easier. By doing the things you like and enjoy, she should become interested in you. By doing that, you don’t have to pretend in front of her. A few similar interests are cool but a woman who likes every single thing you like, is pretty scary. Difference is powerful in itself. You can learn and experience new things from one another.

Look for someone who accepts you for who you are and enjoys your company. Look for someone who enjoys your comedy. Never try to be funny in a relationship. It kills the vibe completely and what happens is, the girl finds out that you aren’t original and you are actually pretending to be something you are not. You should just be yourself and that should make the girl laugh. So many people try too hard to be comedians in front of women because they want to be accepted quickly. You either look like a fool or you are funny for a short period of time, but they catch you out and see your true character and distance themselves, because your true character isn’t what they expected, beyond the comedy mask.

how cute :)

As I said, I haven’t been in a relationship but I have looked at women and thought deep within, I don’t think they are the right person. I won’t go out with them just because it makes me look cool or I will have an extra woman to put on my list of the women I have dated. I believe that when you wait, you really get to live your life and find out who you actually are, and from developing as an individual, you realise and develop an idea of the sort of woman that would fit your character and COMPLETE YOU! Completing is very important. Some may say that a woman that completes you is someone that is perfect and perfect doesn’t exist. I think personally, a person that completes you, puts you at ease and makes you feel your absolute self. The self you are when you talk to your mother.

BE HONEST! That is the most important thing in a relationship. All men should be honest. By being honest, you are yourself. By being honest, you can separate the women that will respect and accept you to the women that act like fakes and beggars. By being honest, you will have a seriously good relationship that will last and be meaningful.

I would just like to say that a relationship should be completely natural. You should be yourself always. Be honest and don’t worry about who you are because whoever you are, your woman should accept you for that completely.

Brooklynn:

I have been in some very serious and long term relationships/commitments. One thing people have to understand is that being in a relationship means there is no more “I” and it is now “us” and “we.” Compromise is the key word in order to maintain a relationship. Communication is another thing that is also EXTREMELY important. A relationship is a major responsibility and I think a lot of people fail to realize and understand it for its reality.

I am single now, and after emerging from a 4 year relationship I realized that I was too young to be occupying a role that I wasn’t ready for. In your youth, it is your time to get to know yourself and live for yourself. Not to be attached to someone else. Having your own Individuality is something that is really important before you get into a relationship because once you’re in one, we sometimes lose sight of what’s best for US and end up doing what’s best for the other person FIRST. A relationship takes time and needs constant maintenance in order to survive. A lot of people forget that, and become too comfortable, which is why so many relationships break.

If you’re going to get involved with somebody just like Derrick said, don’t do it just for the sake of being able to say “that’s my girlfriend/boyfriend”. Make sure you are completely comfortable to all extremes with the other person and make sure your levels of communication are 100%. Do NOT settle for the first person who comes your way and makes you smile. When I say this, I mean especially for the females out there, it’s easy for us to be swept away by the smallest gestures but you have to know, that not all gestures are pure ones. Know your worth so that someone can appreciate it even more, and not take advantage of you.

In the end, take your TIME and pace yourselves. You have all the time in the world to hold hands, cuddle and kiss and call someone your Boyfriend/Girlfriend. It’s like shopping…browse, try things on and if you don’t like it or it doesn’t fit well…don’t buy it! 😉

xoxo Brooklynn

Brook Lynn

IT’S NOT ABOUT LOOKING, IT’S ABOUT LIVING

In Relationships, Self Help on November 1, 2011 at 1:04 am

A lot of people my age (16) are getting into relationships in college with people that they just met. After a month or less, they have broken up and back to being friends. A lot of them continue living their life like they didn’t just have a relationship and some actually felt like they had something special and worth keeping. I think being 16, people are still too young to understand the complexity of a relationship. We should be teenagers and enjoy the friendships we have with people, than get into relationships that don’t last very long due to the lack of chemistry. I personally believe, when we are young, we are learning how to treat people in a friendship and how to make a friendship flourish. I believe once we understand how to keep a friendship flourishing, then a committed relationship is the next step.

Being in a relationship is about being at ease with another individual. We should feel comfortable being around them and laugh with them naturally, instead of forcing it to please one another. I personally, haven’t been in a relationship but I have had really good friendships with people. Some friendships become so close, that you give your female friend the the sister role instead of a potential future girlfriend.  You can learn so much from a sister about relationships than anywhere else, mainly because your ‘sister’ is a female herself. If you don’t have a friend like that, you should interact with more females and find one. You could just talk to a bunch of random females you meet on the street, if you have the confidence to ask them for an outside opinion. They will most likely answer your friendly question if you come across as genuinely curious instead of a freak that has been stalking them since they left Starbucks, and crossed the street opposite McDonald’s.

I would also advise any teenage guy who isn’t in a relationship to concentrate on what they are passionate about because if you do, females would admire that, because it shows that women are not on your mind 24/7. I realised this myself, and was told the exact same thing by some of my beautiful female friends from college. I do hang out with women but I do take the time to work on my passion which is writing. I am not pursuing women, but most importantly pursuing my passion for writing. I want to inspire many by my words, and what that means is not looking for women because I know, and you should definitely know, that women will always be there.

I asked a few of my friends for their personal opinion on what is needed for long and lasting relationship. Here are some of their thoughts.

Daniel Cayford:  

”Knowing about what they actually want from life, and seeing how the two of you, together, are stronger than when you were single.”

Christian Hayward: 

”Knowing each other in a extended bit of time and not having sex on the first date.”

Makeda D. O-Cole: 

” You shouldn’t enter something, you know with all your heart, isn’t going to go somewhere and doesn’t have a future.”

A relationship is supposed to last; it isn’t supposed about showing off to your friends that you have girlfriend or boyfriend. It is about liking someone who you really connect with. It is also about sharing the same values and common interests with another individual that makes you happy. Love the people you socially connect with, and develop a lasting and meaningful friendship with your friends. The rest will come in time.

What do you think? Do you agree with what I think? What is your verdict on a lasting relationship or even developing a lasting friendship?