Posts Tagged ‘school’


In Self Help on October 1, 2012 at 1:26 am

Today, I did the longest ever study session of my life, and I still feel amazing and full of energy. I started studying at 3:00pm, after going to the gym from 11:00 to 12:30 and then coming home to eat brunch and then update my Tumblr. I finished studying minutes to midnight with frequent breaks and a power nap (20mins). The best thing ever happened to me in terms understanding what drives my hard work and determination, which I didn’t have before, but started applying recently when starting college. Last year I flopped pretty much all my exams because I counted the hours I worked everyday, applying quantity rather than quality. I thought to myself if I put in 3 hours today, I will be up to scratch and be able to relax a little bit. That type of thought or drive is completely wrong and should have never been my driving force for success. It sets your up for failure and puts you on the borderline, just like it did for me.

What has started to drive me in terms of hard work and application is my ability to empty my cup (full of preconceptions of self standard) and take every learning opportunity as a new experience. In addition, I constantly think about my ambitions, and dreams in life. I used to think that success is luck, and that you don’t have to work hard, hard to become successful, but hard enough. I then realised that hard work and success differentiates you from lazy people. If you want something that is amazing, exclusive and life changing, you’re going to have to shift your mind set from doing what is necessary to do what is overcapacity so you’re full with more knowledge than you need, so you can reach further and beyond. If everyone is able to have what you want, it must mean it is cheap and quick to obtain, but if what you want is something like a million dollar mansion, of course you will have to work hard to be the best, since million dollar mansions are not available to everyone. Obviously, because there are very few millionaires on this planet. So when I think about what I want in life, I realise that they aren’t available to everyone, so as a smart individual, I have to work harder than everyone else to be on top of my game and be the be the best at whatever I am doing. I cannot settle for less, or settle at the standard of the majority, because where the majority stand is an easy and comfortable position that has many people complaining for better.

A good technique of finding your motivation to work hard is to simply write down everything you want to achieve in life, and put them in a list of importance. Then write down what you need to achieve what you want, and then just simply apply yourself after. If you have no idea what you want to achieve in life, simply work hard in everything you do, explore and become adventurous.


Insignificant Steps

In Self Help on June 2, 2012 at 1:08 pm

The only route to anything that brings success is hard work.

The problem we have in modern culture, with the development of technology and the easy access of information, is that we are afraid of hard work. We are afraid of doing hard work that seems insignificant. We put ourselves through absolute shit, everyday to get to the point where we feel successful and satisfied.

I constantly feel like quitting something really difficult that doesn’t seem straight forward. I feel like quitting something I am not aware of in my life or have previous experiences from. For example, I had an experience of a full year of Advanced Level Sociology and I didn’t enjoy it. I found it difficult, regardless of my love of understanding society. I just didn’t like the educational approach to the subject. The sad point is that when I was faced with the challenge, I felt like giving up because of the lack of enjoyment. I should have kept going, doing my best, but sadly sold myself short by quitting at the end of the year, but still went into the exam constantly looking around for aimless support. Regardless of the academic lesson attached to the subject, there is always something to learn that goes deeper than just the textbook.

The feeling of success and satisfaction doesn’t have to come from one source, like wealth, but could come from your relationships with your family and friends. It can also come from helping an individual that is in need of guidance and support. It could also come from just inspiring an individual that lacks the motivation to keep moving forward in his or her life.

The most significant thing about insignificant steps is the point that if you embrace every step you take towards your success and overall satisfaction of your life, you will love every step regardless of the challenges you face. Why? Because you know the insignificant steps is going to teach you something about your overall objective.

If you are on the verge of quitting something that is hard, you should continue regardless. Like I always say, the success you feel at the end makes the hard work worth it. The greatness you feel at the end is more powerful than you can ever imagine. It is like wanting to eat fish and chips. The hardest part is going to shop and purchasing it, and then coming home. The satisfaction comes when you eat it.

Stressful Times Don’t Have To Be Stressful

In Self Help on April 24, 2012 at 11:49 pm

You are living, that is what truly matters.

The fact that you are livning and breathing is more important than anything else. You should never stress yourself out about work or your life. You should always live in the moment and live each day like it is your last. Never become negative about your life or where you are, even if your life is rather challenging or confusing. Always remember that, because you are living, you are okay and that definitely means, you can continue living and keep moving forward.

Your situation is temporary, not permanent.

Never feel your situation is permanent or never ending. You can control your life, and you make it what you want. You have the ability to do whatever you like, or whatever you desire to do or achieve. It is up to you to work for it, and depending on how much you want it, you will not sleep till you taste, feel, and breath success.

Stress can kill you. Believe me.

If you stress yourself out about your dissatisfaction of your life, or your inability to accomplish something, you will not succeed, move forward or sustain a healthy lifestyle.  When you stress out, you focus on one thing, and forget the other priorities in your life. You lose the most important things in your life, and that can leave you blind (figuratively speaking). If you feel constantly stressed, you can lose your ability to function as a human.

Not saying be lazy.

I am not saying casually  allow life to take control of you. Take control of your life and work very hard. Hope for the best, prepare for the worse. Don’t work stressfully hard, but strategically smart and you will forever be successful. The hard work will naturally come after that. Get what you need to get done finished, but if you cannot do it at the pace you think is acceptable, just accept that your body says no. By stopping, you are realising that your health is more important than your desired objective. Continue when you feel like you can give your objective, your full attention.

Have fun.

Whatever you do, try and stay positive. Try and find something interesting about what you are doing, however small the interest is, and use that as your driving force to get something done. If you are able to do that with everything, you will forever survive and conquer any challenge.

Chill out.

Always find time to chill out. Even if you are really busy in your life and what you are doing requires persistency and dedication, still relax. If you don’t, you will go into overdrive. And yes, that can have an effect on your health. Love yourself, so that simply means take care of your body.


What I Learned About Structure

In Self Help on December 19, 2011 at 9:55 pm

I recently made a timetable for my college year and realised that structure, and a set and strict timetable are really important when it comes to success in life. You cannot be successful unless you have a structure in place which you follow towards your success. Structure is important because you are planning your actions. Planning, prepares you for success and reduces your chances of failure. That is why there is the saying ‘to fail to prepare, is preparing to fail.’ That immediately means structure and planning makes you more successful than the other individual that doesn’t prepare or structure correctly.

I took structure and planning for granted through out my whole life till I realised that my grades in school weren’t adding up. My English grade was below my expected. If you looked at my writing, you would assume the curriculum got my papers wrong with someone else’s. I am good at English and have potential, but my structure for work is wrong, not my knowledge or understanding of the concepts. I need to plan my work and plan it well so that my success is satisfying my interpretation of what success means to me. (If you are wondering, the letter A is what I call success). I did well in some subjects and did not so good in others this term in school. My structure for learning is a total fail, period. My latest post on TheLookoutDiary, ‘Am I The Only One That Hates Multitasking In School?’ is about not wanting to multi-task but what I have learned, is that multi-tasking only works when your structure is well thought out, and implemented according to your plan.

My mother and grandfather pushed and pushed and pushed me until I made a structured timetable for my life. Since I started going by my timetable, I have practically forgotten about prioritising school subjects and giving each subject, the same amount of time and attention. I NOW FEEL MY BEST.

Do you ever wonder why you can do different subjects in school one after the other, and not feel like you are missing out on one subject compared to the other? The reason you feel so at ease when you are at school, is because a structure has been put in place to help you go through school with ease. That is what you have to do for yourself, when you are at home. If you are ever faced with so many things to do in your life, make a plan, make a structure that works for you, and stick by it and if you do, you will be successful. It doesn’t have to be work or at work by the way. It could just  be your life as a whole.


In Self Expression, Self Help on October 17, 2011 at 7:06 pm

People always try to fit into society by doing everything that is normal. They never do something that they truly want to do, but have to do to be accepted by their fellow peers. People who constantly try to fit in, never feel comfortable. My friend Pablo (picture) came to college in a scooter and in my opinion, had immense amounts of swagger, I couldn’t put into words.

When do we just do what we feel and never think about what people think. The people that are different, couldn’t care less how people perceive them. It is then that they get praise for being so cool, all because they are unique in their style. Yes, it is style! The things everyone does is just boring but when you break away from the norms of society, we start to become creative and experimental and then great things are created.

Now, I am going to upgrade my skateboard and roll into school doing an ollie. No one should copy me but respect my style and get their own!

The Stranger

In Uncategorized on October 11, 2011 at 9:53 pm


I love being a stranger to people. They don’t know anything about me and I don’t know anything about them. I can show any persona of myself that I want and all that the strangers of my personality can do is either accept it or deny it. That is the true beauty of being a stranger.

In college, I have made a group of amazing friends that are really honest people. What I mean is that we are all crazy in our own way and it works because at least when your freaky,  interesting, and your funny shitty behaviour comes out, everyone accepts it and it’s honest!

In the last couple weeks, I have become less of a stranger and more of ‘the guy’ that people know around school. I am not trying to act like I am popular. I am still Derrick, the weird guy with a ‘strange’ mind and messed up but brilliant persona.

Everyone feels weird in a groups at first but we gradually feel comfortable after some time. One of my friends (Ali) was average (my word for boring)  at first, then his funny character blossomed and I have to say, I haven’t met anyone funnier than him. That is the same for my other friends Makeda, Elliot, Geneva, Pablo, Amy, Chioma, Christian and Alie!

What everyone should take from this post is that we will always feel weird around new people, but once we feel comfortable, we all become crazy and look like we take drugs!

Just Keep Going!

In Self Help on October 4, 2011 at 3:43 pm

You know when you were young and you had big dreams. You had dreams like becoming really rich, actor or music star like Beyonce or Kanye West. Then you learned about education and then dreams shifted to you wanting to go to Harvard, Oxford, Cambridge or LSE, while still wanting to be a music star or actor or TV presenter. Well, you can still live up to the dreams regardless of what your life has turned out to be.

I didn’t get the best GCSE grades but I still got accepted into sixth form. People think that if they don’t get high standards then their life is over but in actual fact, you can still get back up, dust yourself off and try again.

I believe that grades shouldn’t be the only thing that allows you to pursue your dream and gain success. I am not against education, I just feel that a lot can be learned from being practical in the world. If you look at the world at the moment, people are creating things in their spare time while educating themselves in something completely different. I am a blogger by night but by day, I am a college student studying Philosophy, Sociology, Business and English Literature. The only subject in that list that relates to me blogging is English. If you take time to develop something you enjoy, you will eventually become better and reap the rewards. It is always going to be hard at first but as time goes on, it will become easier and second nature.

What you have to understand about life, education, principles and socialising is that everyone is a human being. We all make mistakes and we are not perfect. That means that people are going to have to accept 98% achievement instead of 100% because again, no one is perfect. That also means that we can still come back to be closer to perfect if we learn from our mistakes. Everyone is different and that’s what makes us unique human beings. If people were perfect, life would be shit!

My advice to anyone reading this is to continue to fight to be the best at what you do but never give up because when you do, then you feel like something is empty inside of you!



How To Survive College #1

In Uncategorized on October 2, 2011 at 4:11 pm

N.B. College in UK is the last 2 years before college education in the USA.

If you have read my latest posts you would have known that I have recently started college. I have made friends and now I have enormous amounts of work that has deadlines and a life that is almost jam packed with education. I have recently come up with a few tips for the typical student that is trying to survive college to the best of their ability and hopefully get far in life.

1) Always do work on time and preferably on the day you get it.

2) Make friends with people that actually want to succeed in life.

3) Do a sport out of school or a club that isn’t related to work eg. computer club, football club, basketball club. It allows you to make friends without the fear of embarrassing yourself.

4) Make time to go to the library. I don’t like it but that is where you find people who want to succeed and want to go to university.

5) After 2 months of school, ask someone to be your study partner. Work can get boring so a partner can make it slightly more interesting. I call it ‘not suffering alone, but together.’ Suffering together, makes it fun.

6) Always try to enjoy yourself regardless of the stress college gives you.

College is a place to network with people in an educational enviroment. Take advantage of social networking but don’t abuse it and flop your exams.

Good Luck to every student trying to get further in life. Belief in yourself, will get you far.



In Uncategorized on September 23, 2011 at 5:00 pm

I can’t believe it has already been 2 weeks at college and the stresses are catching up on me. I am just wanting a break, even though it has just been my personal introduction to advanced level education. I would rather lounge at home, watch the Matrix Trilogy or write all day and hang out with friends. Education is needed though. It gives you opportunity and that gives you success in whatever you want to do in life.

I am the social type of person. If I go to college and we were told that we couldn’t talk to anyone, I wouldn’t even survive a day, yet alone a week. I need socialisation in college as it gives me an advantage in connecting with people. With that in mind, education is very important right now, and all I have been doing is learning how adapt to my new routine of ‘off key’ lesson times and a bunch of new people who I have been suprisingly confident to talk to.

If you are in college and it’s going pretty slowly and you are starting to realise that it is not what you imagined, just look at it as a challenge that if you pass your exams, you will get what you want after. It may be university or employment. Just keep going and be dedicated through out!


In Uncategorized on September 12, 2011 at 10:04 pm

I had my first lesson today at college. It wasn’t bad. A class full of girls and 3 boys, that definitely works out well, don’t you think? My class is cool but two hours of English Literature does make you brain dead. You expect to be reading a lot and that’s true but it’s a lot of analysing and texts that doesn’t make sense.



The jump from GCSE to A level couldn’t be more daunting but at the same time, couldn’t be more rewarding. I am a person who loves to read and get into stories. The only downside is when the teacher picks on you to give your thoughtful opinion at an a level standard and you think to yourself ‘why me?’ All I know is that it’s a standard above GCSE that includes more words and a better understanding of the English language. Projecting your voice to bunch of newby’s in your life is scary but you have to fight through it by feeling confident and knowing in the end, you will get what you wanted and hopefully your analysing and reading the dictionary from front to back, actually pays off.

Let’s hope the Queen doesn’t feel like adding new words to the dictionary so soon, so you and me can keep up.