Posts Tagged ‘success’


In Self Help on October 1, 2012 at 1:26 am

Today, I did the longest ever study session of my life, and I still feel amazing and full of energy. I started studying at 3:00pm, after going to the gym from 11:00 to 12:30 and then coming home to eat brunch and then update my Tumblr. I finished studying minutes to midnight with frequent breaks and a power nap (20mins). The best thing ever happened to me in terms understanding what drives my hard work and determination, which I didn’t have before, but started applying recently when starting college. Last year I flopped pretty much all my exams because I counted the hours I worked everyday, applying quantity rather than quality. I thought to myself if I put in 3 hours today, I will be up to scratch and be able to relax a little bit. That type of thought or drive is completely wrong and should have never been my driving force for success. It sets your up for failure and puts you on the borderline, just like it did for me.

What has started to drive me in terms of hard work and application is my ability to empty my cup (full of preconceptions of self standard) and take every learning opportunity as a new experience. In addition, I constantly think about my ambitions, and dreams in life. I used to think that success is luck, and that you don’t have to work hard, hard to become successful, but hard enough. I then realised that hard work and success differentiates you from lazy people. If you want something that is amazing, exclusive and life changing, you’re going to have to shift your mind set from doing what is necessary to do what is overcapacity so you’re full with more knowledge than you need, so you can reach further and beyond. If everyone is able to have what you want, it must mean it is cheap and quick to obtain, but if what you want is something like a million dollar mansion, of course you will have to work hard to be the best, since million dollar mansions are not available to everyone. Obviously, because there are very few millionaires on this planet. So when I think about what I want in life, I realise that they aren’t available to everyone, so as a smart individual, I have to work harder than everyone else to be on top of my game and be the be the best at whatever I am doing. I cannot settle for less, or settle at the standard of the majority, because where the majority stand is an easy and comfortable position that has many people complaining for better.

A good technique of finding your motivation to work hard is to simply write down everything you want to achieve in life, and put them in a list of importance. Then write down what you need to achieve what you want, and then just simply apply yourself after. If you have no idea what you want to achieve in life, simply work hard in everything you do, explore and become adventurous.



In Self Help on August 30, 2012 at 11:04 pm

My mindset a couple hours ago was purely about getting by. Not actually exceeding my potential. I had a mindset of a person that would just like to get by in life. I have hopes and aspirations, but never really put anything towards it. Yes, I have a few talents that I am praised for and proud of,  such as my writing, but even with that, I haven’t exactly pushed myself hard enough to be the best.

Not getting the desired outcome I expect, causes me to trip over mentally. I have aspirations to travel, explore the world, have a nice house, and have an amazing group of friends, but the honest truth is that I have never really pushed hard for it. I do the minimum to get by, but never the over and above. The only time I push myself, is when I am doing a sport. The reason I push myself then, is because my mindset from a young age, was embedded with the fact that I have to always do better than last time in any physical sport. I thank my mum for instilling that in me, from the age of 5.

The mindset of the typical individual is ‘let’s do what we need to do to survive and that’s okay, as long as we are secure.’ If an individual does enough to survive, he or she doesn’t have to push harder to out perform his or her last achievement. For me, I need to realise, in order for me to achieve even 10% of my ambitions, I need to push hard and reach deep. Nothing comes easy, nothing is simple. To be the best you got to work hard, every single day till you perfect your craft and get the result you desired.

My mindset is no longer, get it done so I can have a break but let’s have a break when the job has been done properly. A perfect time doesn’t exist, because when you look for perfect times, you miss opportunity.


In Self Help on July 29, 2012 at 10:34 pm

So, a lot of people would say sport is a waste of time. They would just exhibit it for entertainment purposes but never do it, because more important things are supposed to be focused on in life. Sport in fact, is so important to ones development. Doing a sport, beautifully develops a persons mind to understand how far he or she can push himself or herself towards achievement. Sport allows an individual to focus on a goal and achieve it through hours and hours of work and dedication.

The 2012 London Olympics began on Saturday, and apart from being disappointed by the opening ceremony, I was impressed by the sporting competitions being held. Every athlete looked like they deserved to be their. Every athlete looked like they were doing their sport for the love of the sport, instead of the fame and glory of being at the Olympics. The place where you can show off your talent and love it, but have a kind of marriage and passionate love towards it that no one will ever understand.

Sport is one of those things that I shy away from, because of being lazy and not understanding why I am doing it. I have done martial arts all my life and I can honestly say, I am good at it. I have talent, just never worked at it. I have done Karate, Kickboxing and Muay Thai. I have never really seriously committed to it. I take it for granted, because I am talented. I have only ever recieved one medal for appearing at a competition once in my life. Then I began to duck in and duck out of it, find excuses not to go and say it bores me. All I can say is that it bored me because I never really understood the meaning of doing such an athletic sport. Sport is seriously about training your mind to say ‘This is not my best, my best is when I can continuingly  beat my previous result.’ Then you become great.

Sport keeps me focused. Sport always tells me that I can only achieve this by me pushing myself alone. No one will get me to achieve what I can do in sport, unless I push my individual self. No one will give me the result I prefer. I am the creator of my own success. I am successful when I can honestly break a sweat that comes from breaking through a barrier that has pushed me back over and over again.

All amazing athletes push themselves. No one makes them do what they do. They are the creators of their own success and they are only successful because they knew something bigger than they could imagine was somewhere to be found and owned. Tiger Woods found it, Kobe Bryant found it, Muhammed Ali found it, Usain Bolt found it. IT IS ONLY UP TO YOU TO FIND IT!

Everything in my life becomes simpler when I keep doing sports. I can rationalise situations a lot faster. Get better results in school, stay focused and content within myself. I definitely know when something is a stupid and worthless goal, and when something is truly great to achieve. Money becomes worthless, but the use of the money becomes great. The achievement isn’t financial, but spiritual and wholesome.

In summary, SPORT is about self improvement. So if you want to self improve yourself, do a sport.



In Self Help on July 14, 2012 at 6:25 pm

It’s not religion. It is people. That’s the problem

People always complain religion is the reason problems exist in the world. The truth is, religion isn’t the problem. It is the individuals beliefs that conflict with religion. So many people are trying to put their own beliefs into religion, rather than religion putting beliefs in them. People want control and power, and people want religion to magically tell them that they should have control and power.

Religion is about seeking the meaning of life and fulfilment. It is not learning about how to dominate other individuals and how to control them. The conflicts we have in the world is a result of people putting their own beliefs in religion. Twisting the fundamental teachings of religion and putting their own power and signiture to something that should be untouched. Just listen to religious teachings, examine it and use it for the better of yourself, not for others. When you try to change people’s beliefs, you are trying to change the individual to fit your own belief. Let them believe what they want to, and let them fail as they will learn for themselves. The individual shouldn’t be chained and whipped to believe, but should have the freedom to choose if they want to believe or not.

I am a Christian, and believe every religion has greatness and powerful teachings that should be spread to others. I believe you only teach those that are willing to be open and willing to change. Don’t change those that are ignorant. Don’t blame social problems on the religion but on the character of the individual that uses religion in the negative way.

Any individual that says religion is the problem, is an individual that hasn’t got core beliefs in themselves or the power to control their own mind. The world is driven by the spread of beliefs and values that people share and strangely share common values with. Any powerful person can make you believe a religion is detrimental to a populations movement forward to positivity and persperity. But a fool is the person who simply believes the powerful person is so powerful, since the individual is a human just like you and me. We all have the same power, it doesn’t matter if you are President of the United States or a village man. It just takes a bullet to pierce through your lungs and kill you.

What you should understand from this post is, have belief in yourself. It doesn’t have to be religious, it could be spiritual. Have belief in who you are. Don’t be easily lead. Have faith in your growth as a smart, understanding, reasonable person. And most of all, be open. Don’t ever base your judgment purely on what you experience. Look out for perspective, then make a standpoint. Only make a standpoint if you are willing to learn from others. We live to learn so never stop learning. EVER!

The Risk

In Self Help on June 16, 2012 at 5:28 pm

In my life, I have moments when I think to myself, ‘Do I actually take risks?’ I go to college and live a good life, in a stable home with my mum, but then I think about the times when I have taken ‘the’ risk. The risk to do something extraordinary or have the guts to take a leap of faith to challenge myself to do something I haven’t done before.

Considering all I do in my life is college, write and spend time with family, I am seriously questioning my ability to believe in myself and take a risk that doesn’t fit into my daily routine. Constantly as human beings we are battling our own thoughts and beliefs to seek what is right for us, and when the time comes for us to do something that can change ourselves completely. If we constantly do the same things everyday, surely we will get bored. If we aim to achieve something but only get to a certain point, then a wall surrounds us, where do we go? How do we keep moving to the unknown and new places that help us make sense of our identity.

I go to college 5 days a week, and have lessons at awkward times. When a time comes when I am free from lessons, I could either do something leisure related or study. I most of the time have to study. But if I am not studying, I am doing very repetitive things that don’t really move me forward to experience new things. I would be tweeting, writing, watching films or spending hours on Skype talking to my girlfriend. It becomes an unstructured routine in my life.

The challenge we have as human beings is finding new things to do, and having the confidence to try something that doesn’t fit into our ‘most comfortable’ routine. It is like a new form of laziness that isn’t the same as the typical lazy human being that doesn’t do anything in his or her life. It is the lazy, where we feel so comfortable that anything we do has to be something already done. I am a human being that loves to experience new things. I would go out and watch a film with friends or take a train journey to my girlfriend’s house which is in a place called no where (not literally) and do things that are planned (I love planning). When I have plans to do things that aren’t part of my routine in life, I feel good. I just can’t get myself to do things that aren’t planned, unexpected or extraordinarily risky. The risk is the feeling that I don’t know what will come, so I cannot prepare for failure.

The problem is that when we plan so much and never take the risk, the excitement in any experience weakens, as well as the satisfaction in the result. We love good results. We are humans, so we love the peak in human performance. It be an amazing musical piece an artist makes or the ability to run a couple kilometres and beat your record time. When we feel satisfied with what we have done before, we always ask ourselves about the possible result of a different outcome if we took the risk to not know what will come. Those that are scared of risks, feel good, satisfied (sometimes a lie) and unsatisfied (never admit, but complain) with where they are. Those that take risks, always love the thrill of learning or experiencing something that can either move them forward or move them back, because they can never stay static.

If we all learned how to move away from our typical routine of 9-5 working days and more into the unexpected living, we would learn something completely different about ourselves. If we planned less and hoped for the best, while preparing for the worse, we can only learn and grow. We may often feel disappointment and despair when we don’t get the result or the leap of faith we took was a leap to far.

Dr Cornel West, my favourite Philosopher once said….

He who has never despaired, has never lived.  But you cannot let despair have the last word.

What that has taught me in my confusing teenage life is that we will feel beat down and heartbroken when we don’t get the desired results, but that means that we should always get back up. It doesn’t matter about our circumstances or fear. Our risk taken, if we take it, can only teach us, but never break us, only if we allow it to.

We face challenges but we should just keep moving forward because life is about living. Our lives are too short for being petrified. If we don’t move forward, how can we ever assure ourselves that we have actually lived? Take the risk. Enjoy the risk, but most of all learn from it.

Insignificant Steps

In Self Help on June 2, 2012 at 1:08 pm

The only route to anything that brings success is hard work.

The problem we have in modern culture, with the development of technology and the easy access of information, is that we are afraid of hard work. We are afraid of doing hard work that seems insignificant. We put ourselves through absolute shit, everyday to get to the point where we feel successful and satisfied.

I constantly feel like quitting something really difficult that doesn’t seem straight forward. I feel like quitting something I am not aware of in my life or have previous experiences from. For example, I had an experience of a full year of Advanced Level Sociology and I didn’t enjoy it. I found it difficult, regardless of my love of understanding society. I just didn’t like the educational approach to the subject. The sad point is that when I was faced with the challenge, I felt like giving up because of the lack of enjoyment. I should have kept going, doing my best, but sadly sold myself short by quitting at the end of the year, but still went into the exam constantly looking around for aimless support. Regardless of the academic lesson attached to the subject, there is always something to learn that goes deeper than just the textbook.

The feeling of success and satisfaction doesn’t have to come from one source, like wealth, but could come from your relationships with your family and friends. It can also come from helping an individual that is in need of guidance and support. It could also come from just inspiring an individual that lacks the motivation to keep moving forward in his or her life.

The most significant thing about insignificant steps is the point that if you embrace every step you take towards your success and overall satisfaction of your life, you will love every step regardless of the challenges you face. Why? Because you know the insignificant steps is going to teach you something about your overall objective.

If you are on the verge of quitting something that is hard, you should continue regardless. Like I always say, the success you feel at the end makes the hard work worth it. The greatness you feel at the end is more powerful than you can ever imagine. It is like wanting to eat fish and chips. The hardest part is going to shop and purchasing it, and then coming home. The satisfaction comes when you eat it.


In Self Help on May 1, 2012 at 4:43 pm

You gotta want it so bad, that you are willing to lose sleep.

SUCCESS. The word you have heard everyone say in their life. The word they associate themselves with or hope to associate themselves with one day. The word is truly crazy. As well as being crazy, it is also very powerful. The lover of this word who is truly affectionate is the word that everyone hates. The words that drives me people mental. The word that demotivates most indivduals. The word that stops many people from doing what they want to achieve.  The word that makes very few people inspired to do great things. HARD WORK. 

Success is when you have achieved your objective in life. It could be becoming a writer. It could be an NBA basketball player, or doctor, or lawyer or anything that you are really interested in. Your success comes when you feel satisfied that you have done what you planned out to do in your life and you feel satisfied with the result.

Hard work is the time and effort you put into what you want to achieve. It is when you are investing in your future. This is the part when you feel uncomfortable and feel like quitting. This is the time when you have to give what you want to achieve your all. You have dedicate yourself and put in the hours to accomplish your objective. Without hard work you cannot be successful and you cannot become what your greatest person.

When you want to be successful, there will be times when you want to give up and say I am done. You will be tired, you will be stressed out and you will want to do something that makes you comfortable. Someone wise once said ‘You gotta be comfortable in your uncomfortable position.’ If you learn how to feel comfortable in your uncomfortable circumstances, you will feel good in whatever position you are in.

When you associate yourself with people that put you down and tell you can’t do something, you are likely not to achieve greatness. Constantly my friends put me down when I say I want to achieve a specific goal. They will say ‘Derrick get real, you won’t be rich, you won’t get that job because I didn’t get it, you gotta be REALISTIC, aim to be or do something more achievable.’ I get that day in, day out and you know what, that motivates me everyday to prove them wrong. The only reason someone de-motivates you and tells you that you can’t do something, is because they can’t do it themselves.

Being realistic is completely different to being successful in this world. The people that want to be successful, break down barriers and accomplish the goals they set out to do, and will not fall short till they get to the point where they have accomplished what they want to achieve. Being realistic is selling yourself short and not doing what you want to do.

Example: A boy wants to become a banker, but then someone says to him ‘get real, you aren’t good at mathematics.’ If he pushes through that barrier of what is real and what isn’t and is determined to be successful, he will achieve greatness and feel satisfied. As long as he is PASSIONATE.

Successful people never need to be told where to go, because they are fully aware of where they are going. They know the steps to take and they know how to get there. They will take every step with diligence and perfection. They will correct their mistakes, re-do the little steps till it is the best step it can be, almost or certainly PERFECT.

All successful people know that it takes hard work. Hard work beats talents if the other person doesn’t work hard at his talent. It is not genetics. You don’t achieve because of your genetics, you achieve because of the hours you put into perfecting your craft. So never say, this guy or that girl is genetically made up to achieve better than you. PROVE them wrong because if you give in, you have failed already.

Michael Jordan wasn’t picked for his high school basketball team, so that should already tell you that hard work pays of at the end. Sacrifice the time you have now to invest in your craft so that later on you will reap the reward you wished for. That may mean no sleep, no television, no cell phone or computer, till you achieve your greatness.

If you treat your aims towards success like a breath, you will be successful. How much you want to breath to stay alive, is how you should treat your goals. Treat it like you cannot live without it. Like it is your life support that keeps you alive day in, day out. The more life  support you give your goal, the more likely you will be successful. You eventually will achieve your goal and feel GREAT.


Stressful Times Don’t Have To Be Stressful

In Self Help on April 24, 2012 at 11:49 pm

You are living, that is what truly matters.

The fact that you are livning and breathing is more important than anything else. You should never stress yourself out about work or your life. You should always live in the moment and live each day like it is your last. Never become negative about your life or where you are, even if your life is rather challenging or confusing. Always remember that, because you are living, you are okay and that definitely means, you can continue living and keep moving forward.

Your situation is temporary, not permanent.

Never feel your situation is permanent or never ending. You can control your life, and you make it what you want. You have the ability to do whatever you like, or whatever you desire to do or achieve. It is up to you to work for it, and depending on how much you want it, you will not sleep till you taste, feel, and breath success.

Stress can kill you. Believe me.

If you stress yourself out about your dissatisfaction of your life, or your inability to accomplish something, you will not succeed, move forward or sustain a healthy lifestyle.  When you stress out, you focus on one thing, and forget the other priorities in your life. You lose the most important things in your life, and that can leave you blind (figuratively speaking). If you feel constantly stressed, you can lose your ability to function as a human.

Not saying be lazy.

I am not saying casually  allow life to take control of you. Take control of your life and work very hard. Hope for the best, prepare for the worse. Don’t work stressfully hard, but strategically smart and you will forever be successful. The hard work will naturally come after that. Get what you need to get done finished, but if you cannot do it at the pace you think is acceptable, just accept that your body says no. By stopping, you are realising that your health is more important than your desired objective. Continue when you feel like you can give your objective, your full attention.

Have fun.

Whatever you do, try and stay positive. Try and find something interesting about what you are doing, however small the interest is, and use that as your driving force to get something done. If you are able to do that with everything, you will forever survive and conquer any challenge.

Chill out.

Always find time to chill out. Even if you are really busy in your life and what you are doing requires persistency and dedication, still relax. If you don’t, you will go into overdrive. And yes, that can have an effect on your health. Love yourself, so that simply means take care of your body.


An Addict To Greatness

In Self Help on March 20, 2012 at 6:27 pm

I can sincerely say I am an addict to greatness. I want to achieve greatness. I want to seize greatness from those that don’t deserve it. I want to do good that helps others, and do the things that make me a great person. Sadly, what people don’t understand is that greatness lies deep within us and as human beings, we don’t seem to appreciate or accept the fact that we are great. We often feel dissatisfied because other people are seen to be greater and have done greater things that makes our personal greatness not reach the satisfied mark. Oh yeah, you don’t even feel great, so you don’t have a satisfied mark. And it’s not personal, because you keep comparing yourself to others.

Our potential greatness has to be felt deep within and appreciated, because if we don’t appreciate our greatness, work at our talents or even realise we have greatness, we will forever fall short. And greatness comes from the smallest things in life. It doesn’t have to be on television or how rich and famous you are. If you feel great, then nothing will stop you.

People who don’t care about other peoples greatness, simply nurture their own greatness, disregard negative criticism and are usually seen to be cool, and have that appealing ‘INNER SWAG.’



In Self Help on March 11, 2012 at 11:58 pm

In life, so many things will pull you down. What pulls you down will rub you in the dirt, to the point  where you cannot move or don’t have the energy or drive to move. It is important that you get back up and start again. Change you strategy, and start again. If you stay on the floor and accept defeat, you shall never succeed or change your ways. Your perception on life will be simple and basic. You will lack the unique complexity that makes you different from everyone else. You will never make it as a notable person, known for his or her greatness, but as the average person who seems to just get by. You will not have anything to hold by your name or seem significant.  I am not saying being notable is important. I am implying you need to feel greatness within that satisfies you as a human being.

Learn to take a risk or risks. Learn to get back up and try again. Learn to fight criticism. Most importantly, learn how to strategically defeat what holds you back, and come back on top. If you do that, you will be a totally new, better, confident and positive man or woman.

I constantly feel a dip in my own personal drive. I fail at things, I should have passed. I work hard and put myself through hell to get by in school and that seems to present negative outcomes. I have found out that I do work hard. The problem is that I am not working strategically smart. If I learn how to work strategically smart, I will not have to put myself through hell, or stress myself out. And that is what you need to do as fully functioning human beings. Never let anything STOP YOU from doing what you are passionate about.

Good Luck!