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WHAT DRIVES MY HARD WORK. AMBITION

In Self Help on October 1, 2012 at 1:26 am

Today, I did the longest ever study session of my life, and I still feel amazing and full of energy. I started studying at 3:00pm, after going to the gym from 11:00 to 12:30 and then coming home to eat brunch and then update my Tumblr. I finished studying minutes to midnight with frequent breaks and a power nap (20mins). The best thing ever happened to me in terms understanding what drives my hard work and determination, which I didn’t have before, but started applying recently when starting college. Last year I flopped pretty much all my exams because I counted the hours I worked everyday, applying quantity rather than quality. I thought to myself if I put in 3 hours today, I will be up to scratch and be able to relax a little bit. That type of thought or drive is completely wrong and should have never been my driving force for success. It sets your up for failure and puts you on the borderline, just like it did for me.

What has started to drive me in terms of hard work and application is my ability to empty my cup (full of preconceptions of self standard) and take every learning opportunity as a new experience. In addition, I constantly think about my ambitions, and dreams in life. I used to think that success is luck, and that you don’t have to work hard, hard to become successful, but hard enough. I then realised that hard work and success differentiates you from lazy people. If you want something that is amazing, exclusive and life changing, you’re going to have to shift your mind set from doing what is necessary to do what is overcapacity so you’re full with more knowledge than you need, so you can reach further and beyond. If everyone is able to have what you want, it must mean it is cheap and quick to obtain, but if what you want is something like a million dollar mansion, of course you will have to work hard to be the best, since million dollar mansions are not available to everyone. Obviously, because there are very few millionaires on this planet. So when I think about what I want in life, I realise that they aren’t available to everyone, so as a smart individual, I have to work harder than everyone else to be on top of my game and be the be the best at whatever I am doing. I cannot settle for less, or settle at the standard of the majority, because where the majority stand is an easy and comfortable position that has many people complaining for better.

A good technique of finding your motivation to work hard is to simply write down everything you want to achieve in life, and put them in a list of importance. Then write down what you need to achieve what you want, and then just simply apply yourself after. If you have no idea what you want to achieve in life, simply work hard in everything you do, explore and become adventurous.

Stressful Times Don’t Have To Be Stressful

In Self Help on April 24, 2012 at 11:49 pm

You are living, that is what truly matters.

The fact that you are livning and breathing is more important than anything else. You should never stress yourself out about work or your life. You should always live in the moment and live each day like it is your last. Never become negative about your life or where you are, even if your life is rather challenging or confusing. Always remember that, because you are living, you are okay and that definitely means, you can continue living and keep moving forward.

Your situation is temporary, not permanent.

Never feel your situation is permanent or never ending. You can control your life, and you make it what you want. You have the ability to do whatever you like, or whatever you desire to do or achieve. It is up to you to work for it, and depending on how much you want it, you will not sleep till you taste, feel, and breath success.

Stress can kill you. Believe me.

If you stress yourself out about your dissatisfaction of your life, or your inability to accomplish something, you will not succeed, move forward or sustain a healthy lifestyle.  When you stress out, you focus on one thing, and forget the other priorities in your life. You lose the most important things in your life, and that can leave you blind (figuratively speaking). If you feel constantly stressed, you can lose your ability to function as a human.

Not saying be lazy.

I am not saying casually  allow life to take control of you. Take control of your life and work very hard. Hope for the best, prepare for the worse. Don’t work stressfully hard, but strategically smart and you will forever be successful. The hard work will naturally come after that. Get what you need to get done finished, but if you cannot do it at the pace you think is acceptable, just accept that your body says no. By stopping, you are realising that your health is more important than your desired objective. Continue when you feel like you can give your objective, your full attention.

Have fun.

Whatever you do, try and stay positive. Try and find something interesting about what you are doing, however small the interest is, and use that as your driving force to get something done. If you are able to do that with everything, you will forever survive and conquer any challenge.

Chill out.

Always find time to chill out. Even if you are really busy in your life and what you are doing requires persistency and dedication, still relax. If you don’t, you will go into overdrive. And yes, that can have an effect on your health. Love yourself, so that simply means take care of your body.

LIVE LIFE TO THE FULLEST, BUT WORK STRATEGICALLY SMART, AND YOU WILL BE ABLE TO CONQUER ANYTHING.

DRUNK CHESS, NOTABLE SUCCESS

In Self Help on February 29, 2012 at 10:41 pm

The strange time in your life, when you lose hope and drive. It is a terrible feeling, especially when you are a teenager. You live your teenage life, with so much ease because your mum is providing for you, and all you have to do is bring home the acceptable grades. For me that is a C or above. The challenging part of me being in college, is the freedom to do what I want with a couple boundaries and rules. Sometimes I dread having rules and boundaries, because all I want to do, is do what I want, how I want to do it, and for as long as I can do it without interruption.

 

Saying that, I must admit that I am scared of working hard. I love shortcuts to success. I have this constant thought in my head, telling me, ‘you are working way too hard and you are stressing yourself for something that is simple.’ I am not sure if that is absolute crap or genuine. Is my instinct telling me something, or am I seriously deluded in my nature? At the end of the day, I have dreams to do great things in the world, so in order for me to be great, I need to work harder than everyone else to stand out and become the GENIUS I know I am. If I am unable to become the genius I capable of being, I will be tagged as average, just like everyone else. That is definitely not where I want to be.

When I was really young, I had hopes and dreams of getting into Oxford, Cambridge or Harvard. Slowly, when I realised that it would take constant hard work, I was put off. I thought a set number of people were gifted, and would be able to go to those great and prestigious institutions. Then later in my life, I realised, I have control over my future, which I emphasised in my last post. Hard work goes far, and fighting procrastination (which I suffer greatly) is the only way I can succeed. I will admit to myself, that since I got average GCSE grades, I don’t think I have the slightest chance of getting into Oxbridge or Harvard. I still believe in my personal dreams, like writing because, what keeps going is the fact that I know there are always other ways to achieving a goal than the traditional way. There is no one and only way to prestige and notable success.

I need to change my own perception completely, so I can see and reap the rewards that are not open to all. I will invest in my talents and do the things that will go beyond what is so traditional or expected from a typical black teenager, like myself. Or even a typical teenager living in 21st century London.

Marianne Williamson once said:

” Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.
Our deepest fear
is that we are powerful beyond measure.”

We are powerful beyond measure, but we never bother to actually measure our power because we fear disappointment.

Just Keep Going!

In Self Help on October 4, 2011 at 3:43 pm

You know when you were young and you had big dreams. You had dreams like becoming really rich, actor or music star like Beyonce or Kanye West. Then you learned about education and then dreams shifted to you wanting to go to Harvard, Oxford, Cambridge or LSE, while still wanting to be a music star or actor or TV presenter. Well, you can still live up to the dreams regardless of what your life has turned out to be.

I didn’t get the best GCSE grades but I still got accepted into sixth form. People think that if they don’t get high standards then their life is over but in actual fact, you can still get back up, dust yourself off and try again.

I believe that grades shouldn’t be the only thing that allows you to pursue your dream and gain success. I am not against education, I just feel that a lot can be learned from being practical in the world. If you look at the world at the moment, people are creating things in their spare time while educating themselves in something completely different. I am a blogger by night but by day, I am a college student studying Philosophy, Sociology, Business and English Literature. The only subject in that list that relates to me blogging is English. If you take time to develop something you enjoy, you will eventually become better and reap the rewards. It is always going to be hard at first but as time goes on, it will become easier and second nature.

What you have to understand about life, education, principles and socialising is that everyone is a human being. We all make mistakes and we are not perfect. That means that people are going to have to accept 98% achievement instead of 100% because again, no one is perfect. That also means that we can still come back to be closer to perfect if we learn from our mistakes. Everyone is different and that’s what makes us unique human beings. If people were perfect, life would be shit!

My advice to anyone reading this is to continue to fight to be the best at what you do but never give up because when you do, then you feel like something is empty inside of you!